From Maryland Mom Danielle Meitiv’s Facebook Page

Marion, you must be new here.

I’m sorry Marion you seemed to have found yourself here by mistake, perhaps you were looking for the nancy grace fan page? We follow Lenore because she is the voice of reason saying our children deserve the same kind of childhood the children of past generations had I.e. Being able to play at the neighborhood park without constant supervision. These are not toddlers, their parents have the right to let them walk less than. A mile to neighborhood park. They also have a right not to live in fear from busybody burecrats who want to bully these parents into submission.

Your holier than thou attitude with a dose of moral panic is what created this problem. I’m sure you’d be first to call the authorites on happy kids playing unattended in your neighborhood.

Marion,
Just wait until a group of people disagree with how you do something, and you get arrested or your kids taken from you.

Warren is exactly right. On the most basic level this is about who gets to decide how to parent individual children: The state, who lumps all children together and decides on restrictions based on the lowest common denominator and an interest in creating a pliable citizenry; or the parents, who know their own children intimately and are likely to have their individual children’s best interest at heart regardless of what’s good for the “average” child.

I totally agree with Caiti, this also happened to My Son & I for letting him go play at the park .4 of a mile from my home & My Son has his own Cell.The police are over stepping and do not think about the damage this causes to the children, my arrest was 8 months ago & that one day in our life caused so much unnecessary damage that I am still dealing with & have my son in therapy now. These kinds of arrest & harassment have to stop, a parent knows what their child is capable of doing not the police or cps!

This is wrong on so many levels. Is this action by CPS really legal in the state of Maryland? This has become a personal vendetta for CPS because of the bad press they received before. I think the Meitivs should get a good lawyer and sort out exactly where the CPS is crossing the line. Get the laws changed! Mobilize!

I have a friend whose daughter is in my Girl Scout troop. The friend grew up in Colombia and has a genuine fear of kidnapping. She isn’t into camping, so her daughter has not been allowed to join the campouts or hikes at all. It’s a shame. I know her irrational fear was formed in a place where it probably was rational. Maybe a family member or someone close to her was kidnapped. Still, it’s hard to have this very smart capable kid left out.

We live in a wonderfully free-range neighborhood and any given afternoon will find a gang of kids playing outside unsupervised. I do worry about someone calling the cops sometimes. But what has happened here is that younger sibs who want to play with the “gang” have their moms out on porches loosely watching while visiting. All the parents benefit from the preschooler’s moms, because they’re hanging out, at a distance.

It’s the people who call 911 who get me. If they REALLY thought the kids were in danger, shouldn’t they have walked outside to talk with the children, and/or escort them home (overtly or covertly, depending on how much they wanted to get involved)? Why wait for police to show up if the kids are in danger of being snatched AT ANY MOMENT! Geez…. get some rational thought. And then put the phone down.

First of all, I am inside-out over this. Kidnapping it is! I want to agree with the folks who posted, “If you were really concerned about the kids…” Two weeks ago, I was at an indoor pool packed for an Easter party. A younger kid kept hanging around us until eventually I asked where his caregiver was. He explained he couldn’t find her. So instead of calling the cops, I walked him around the facility until we found the person. I didn’t mind watching the kid while he was hanging out with us and I also didn’t mind helping him find his caregiver so I could go into the pool. I cared about him even though we were strangers and he was thankful. Please donate to the Meitiv cause so they can get a good lawyer. This will set a precedence I believe since the media is watching.

Do the Meitivs have a legal defense fund or a fundraising site? I would like to donate.

I feel so bad for these parents. I digress – I would have probably not let my kids walk anywhere alone after the first confrontation with CPS. Not because I fear they would get abducted by a malicious stranger but because I would not my kids taken from me. I have to really question their judgement. They are using their kids as pawns in a battle they are just not going to win. My suggestion is to move to an area that is better to allow your kids some freedom. I hate to have them do this but they really need to think about their kids rather than their pride.

Umm, was I the only one who thought Marion was being sarcastic?

TRS, I applaud the Meitivs for taking a stand. They’re working to make their neighborhood a better place for their own kids, and for all the neighborhood kids, too. I was much more timid after CPS threatened our family, and I wish I hadn’t been. Now I have two more kids who are, or will be, approaching the age to go play outside alone,and I wish I’d already settled it that they’d be able to do so without interference.

I wish the Meitivs lived in my neighborhood. We could send our kids out together. They say you can’t fight City Hall – I say City Hall can’t fight all of us!

Marion’s comment sounds exactly like the kind of sarcastic comments I make. There is no reason for people to jump down her throat.

this breaks my heArt. All the police have done here is made the children terrified of them!!! This was not the right decision at all. So devastating

Let me preface my comment by saying I fully support parents being able to let their children have unsupervised time and allowing them “to be kids”. I certainly was able to do that growing up. In fact, I was allowed to be much more ‘in danger’ come to think of it. My cousins and I road atvs in the mountains, road bikes on the roads, swam in the pool when he was no more than 13 and I was probably 8… totally unattended. I had a great childhood and feel sad for children now who cannot. But I think part of that is the area in which these kids live (because I too now live in this area.) I think the main issue is that Silver Spring is pretty close to the city and that causes alarm… especially with all the grown adults that have gone missing in and around the Rock Creek Park area and other DC trails over the last 5 years.

Courtney, I know that area well. I probably would not let my kids at that age walk around that urban area because the traffic is horrid and there are a ton of hit and run accidents on pedestrians – even adults. I live in Northern, VA – there are free range neighborhoods and there are not. I think in this area traffic really dictates the amount of kids you see out riding bikes, walking on their own. In Vienna, VA kids are everywhere – riding their bikes to the pool, going to the library….. It is more of a small town atmosphere.

I’ve read and re-read Marion’s comment a few times and I don’t think she’s being sarcastic – there’s nothing in the way she wrote her comment to imply that she is. Someone really needs to invent “Sarcastica” as a font!

Michelle, They were walking through down town Silver Spring area not some neighborhood. I will say that the predators here is the government and I would protect my kids best by not pushing the boundaries with them and continue to parade my freaking kids in public for my 15 min of fame. Ridiculous. This family needs to fight these laws through the proper channels and stop putting these kids through this trauma. Move or stop. It is that simple.

Why is CPS and the police harrassing this family?

This happened to me a year ago. The police referred our family to CPS because we had left our 10 year old home alone for 30 minutes, and she called 911 when she found that our neighbors’ 4 month old puppy was in distress and she couldn’t get to it. CPS called me at work and said they were coming to my house to investigate, and I had to get to Springfield, VA from DC in 30 minutes. The CPS worker walked around our house looking for anything that might not be safe for our daughter. They made us sign a one-year safety plan that required us to put those baby door handle cover thingies on closets that contained tools or glue guns or anything that they deemed might be unsafe. We had to put matches in a lock box and install child safety contraptions on doors for cabinets that contained cleaning solvents. In essence, they wanted us to treat her like she was 3 or 4. Moreover, we were told that we could not leave her alone, at all, ever. That if she was playing in her room, we should check on her every 30 minutes to make sure she was safe. She should not be allowed outside in our yard to play – even though we have a six foot high fence.

When I was 10, I was running all over Rochelle, Illinois (a city about the size of Silver Spring, MD) with my 9 year old sister in tow – my parents taught us to be independent, and we knew to look both ways before crossing the street and to not talk to strangers. I was mopping the floors and doing the dishes and cleaning the toilets – with cleaning solvents. I was cooking meals for my family. All the things that prepared me for adulthood. I just don’t get what CPS is doing! Why are they harrassing this family when there are so many monsters out there mistreating their children?

I think many of you are missing the point here. A 6 or 10 year old are not old enough or mature enough to be roaming around at night. Nothing says they cannot play outside of their house or in their yard past a certain time. When I was growing up in the 80’s, my time to go inside was when the street lights came on. However, I was not a mile or more away from home at 6. I was in the immediate area or a few houses away from the front of my house. I typically had to be within earshot of my mother’s voice. I think that is reasonable to allow your kids the freedom to play outside.

What is unreasonable is letting your kids walk a mile or more away from your home and roam around the neighborhood, by themselves. Let your kids grow up and take on responsibility, but do it responsibly. The kids were walking along, contacted by the police and taken for their safety. In the news article, it reports that the kids were contacted at about 5 pm. It was at 630pm that the parents decided to become frantic when their children had not come home. At least a full 90 mins pass before the parents begin to worry? How long had the children been gone?

Do not be a lazy parent. If your kid wants to go to the park, take them there, play with them, have a picnic. If you want your kids to roam around, buy some land and let them roam around in your field.

Yes I would!!! My kids well being far outweighs my pride.

David, the only reason the kids were out “at night” is that the cops picked them up and prevented them from going home – incidentally holding them until 10:30 without dinner. (Speaking of which, if the Meitivs withheld dinner and failed to put the kids to bed until then, you can bet your boots CPS would be using it as proof of neglect; how come it’s somehow okay when the authorities do it?) The kids attempted to head home before 5; it’s the cops who stopped them. As to your other question, the kids were due home at 6, which is why the parents didn’t start worrying until then.

Rebecca, I live in Fairfax County too. Here are the County guidelines. You could have absolutely used this to protect your child from this. I live in Vienna and my 10 is home alone after school for about an hour most days.

http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/dfs/childrenyouth/supervision_eng.htm

7 years and under:
Should not be left alone for any period of time. This may include leaving children unattended in cars, playgrounds, and backyards. The determining consideration would be the dangers in the environment and the ability of the caretaker to intervene.

8 to 10 years:
Should not be left alone for more than 1 ½ hours and only during daylight and early evening hours.

11 to 12 years:
May be left alone for up to 3 hours but not late at night or in circumstances requiring inappropriate responsibility.

13 to 15 years:
May be left unsupervised, but not overnight.

16 to 17 years:
May be left unsupervised (in some cases, for up to two consecutive overnight periods).

David: Another thing, regarding the “laziness” of not accompanying kids to the park. How much time do you think a kid should ideally spend playing outdoors? I would say on a Saturday or holiday, several hours – in fact, in nice weather, it seems to me the best thing would be for kids to spend almost all their free time playing outside. My siblings and I certainly did. On the other hand, how much time do you think even the most dedicated parent can spare to sit around at the park, supervising? Best case scenario, even with an at-home parent, odds are it’s not going to average more than a few minutes a day, if that. Parents have stuff to do, like working and taking care of the family. Kids have stuff to do too – like playing! Insisting that the latter activity only occur when the former doesn’t is a recipe for producing fat, sedentary, and screen-addicted kids.

forgot to add this sentence!

“Fortunately, here in Fairfax County, social work and community professionals have developed guidelines to help parents decide when it might be safe to leave a child unsupervised.”

CPS made the guidelines but yet they put you Rebekkah under investigation for following the guidelines. So – your story is making me hopping mad you have a reason to bring this to their attention!!! Matter of fact your daughter sounds very responsible and knew what to do for this puppy.

One of my big pet peeves is people who think ONE MILE is a big distance. It is not. It is a 22 minute slow walk, or a 17 minute brisk walk. On a bike you can do it in 5 minutes, easy. I had free run of my neighborhood when i was 8 years old. My school was about a mile away. I usually didn’t walk, but I could, and had to when there was a bus driver strike.

These are the people we need to bombard with a letter writing campaign demanding a change to the current law.

State of Maryland House and Senate elected officials:

http://mgaleg.maryland.gov/webmga/frmmain.aspx?pid=legisrpage&tab=subject6

Montgomery County Board of Elections website that includes some of the same people from the link above but also contains contact information for elected county officials:

http://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/Elections/Information/electedofficials.html#

Warren, I am a little concerned for you. It seems rational communication and dialogue is a problem for you. Either that or you have anger issues.

Regardless, your veiled attempt to disparage my parents or childhood by implying that I was not trusted or my parents did not ‘set the standard’ for me is amusing.

Let’s not quibble about the semantics related to night time having to be dark. In the United States, which I am in as is the Maryland family, the standard conventional time considered to be night is, yes.. 6pm. The factors of daylight savings, geography and seasonal changes can modify the time the sun sets, or the sun is completely gone, but night time is considered to begin at 6pm. The point being that night time (twilight, dusk, whatever you want to call it) is not a preferred time for kids to be out roaming a mile away.

Yes, perhaps the kids were supposed to be home by 6pm and at 630 the parents were panicked. My point was made when 90mins have passed before the parents started looking for them. The 90 mins began when their kids were in police custody. That could have also been 90 mins the kids were in the custody of a pedophile, kidnapper, bully, killer, injured in a ditch, injured by the side of the road, unconscious from injuries at the park, etc. The point being, 90 mins had passed where the kids were no longer at the park and the parents began looking for them. 90 mins that the parents had ZERO CLUE as to where their kids were, what they were doing, who they were with, what had been done.

Kids are not pets. You do not name them cute little pet names and send them into the world with the name Apple or CoCO. You do not put them out and let them wander home by themselves like you might your outdoor car or dog. You do not send them out by themselves to wander the streets by themselves when they are 6 or even 10, or 6 with a 10 year old.

“Do not be a lazy parent.”

Not to start a flame war with you, David–I don’t know you–but to my mind this statement sums up the unexamined privilege that in my view lies at the heart of so many of these controversies. There are parents blessed with the free time to walk/drive their children anywhere they need to go, to meet them at the bus stop, to ensure they are never alone for more than thirty seconds. Then there are parents who are single, or who work full-time, and these parents have to trust that their children can manage basic life tasks (walking a half-mile, opening a refrigerator, entertaining themselves for an hour) without parental supervision. When we call the police over unsupervised 10-year-olds in parks or residential streets in broad daylight, we’re essentially expressing sympathy for parents with privilege and disapproval of parents who lack it. By this standard, parents of privilege are industrious and parents of less privilege are lazy, which sounds to me like an updated version of the 1980s “welfare queen” fantasy peddled by politicians who lacked the will to actually, you know, figure out and address the root causes of poverty and disadvantage. Myself, I prefer not to be included in that noxious little club, but your mileage may vary.

Michelle – There is a difference between you, as adult, fighting for your rights and placing your children involuntarily on the front lines of that fight. Kids should not be used as unwitting pawns in our battles with authority. These children have already been traumatized by the police and CPS and run a real risk of being removed from their homes if this harassment continues. If the kids WANT to continue this fight, great. Have at it. But I believe that it should be explained to the children as best they understand and the children’s opinions as to what they are personally willing to risk to play in the park should be respected.

For example, I am opposed to standardized testing and my daughter doesn’t really want to take it. I have done everything within my power to opt my daughter out, but ultimately the only way for her to not take the test is for her to refuse to take it herself each day in class. I have explained that to her and told her that I would support her if that is what she wanted to do, but I absolutely refuse to FORCE her to fight my fight against her will. If she would rather just take the test (which is her current decision), I will accept that choice and try to dismantle the testing system through other means.

“When we call the police over unsupervised 10-year-olds in parks or residential streets in broad daylight”…

Why o why aren’t “we” calling the police over all the criminals that MUST be hanging around and making this area so unsafe?

Does anyone else suspect that the Meitiv family might be under 24 hour surveillance, with the cops just hoping for another “gotcha”? It must be an amazing place to live, if that’s the only “crime” that ever happens there, and they have the officers to spare on “walking alone” cases.

Here’s the Montgomery County Crime Report for 2014: http://www.mymcpnews.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/MCPCrimeReport2014.pdf

From Page 3, note particularly the last sentence: “Despite the overall increase, the incidence of crime in Montgomery County is the second-lowest rate that the county has experienced in the last decade. The total number of offenses in 2014 was 24.5% lower than 2010, and 23.9% lower than in 2005. Furthermore, the crime rate per capita remains very low: 5,046 crimes for every 100,000 people. The fact is that Montgomery County is a very safe community.”

The document also says to contact the District Commander with any questions or concerns. I believe Silver Spring falls into the 3rd District, Station Commander Captain Marcus Jones: 3DCommander@montgomerycountymd.gov

@Yocheved

I was thinking the same thing. I wonder if they are in a position to move. I would not be happy living in that area. Just too much drama.

I’m so sorry to hear that about your kids.

I don’t want to sound unkind, but I assume that they were not molested while walking on the sidewalk with cops driving around noticing unsupervised children. It’s just really not the same thing.

There is no excuse for keeping kids that long while avoiding calling the family. No excuse. I don’t care if the parents were actually being abusive/negligent. You STILL inform the family ASAP. The cops and the CPS messed up big time here.

And why on earth are so many people in favor of sticking kids into terrifying CPS/foster situations?

Finally, if the neighborhood is that bad, why aren’t cops and the community doing something about it instead of wasting time following kids around?

Not hateful. Just irritated because I don’t want them to lose their kids. They will if they continue. That is sad but probably what will happen. It is because they are being prideful. She went on the Today Show to discuss this. Probably would feel humiliated if she backed down now. I would swallow my pride for the sake of my kids – even if it meant not following what I really wanted to do. They grow up fast and sooner than later you can let them run free w/o punishment.

The law is on CPS side and I am afraid this is just a losing battle for them. I personally would not tell them to continue to fight the battle because I do care if they lose their kids.

David,

Had you earned the trust, you may have been able to venture further. And I don’t know who your parents are, but I am pretty sure they did not, do not and will not set the standard by which others must comply.

And no, when it comes to “being out at night”, it is generally accepted that means after dark.

Next, yes I did send my kids out at that age, all freaking three of them. At the time my 10 yr old daughter would take my 2 yr old daughter to the park, on their own. She would ask to do it. And because of things like that, even though they are 8 yrs apart, they are closer than ever.

You can live in fear, I really don’t give a rat’s ass. I will fight you to the end, to prevent idiots like you from forcing the rest of us to live in your paranoia. You want to be a coward and scared, go for it. Just shut up about it.

@Nick,
Instead of assuming why don’t you look at available information, and not just assume the worst. For example the washignton post wapo.st/1aIaRIr reports:
“The parents said the children, who are 10 and 6 and have been described as “free-range children,” had been expected home at 6 p.m. Sunday. When that time passed, the parents said, they began looking for them.

“We have been searching for the kids for hours,” the mother said in a Facebook posting. They learned of the children’s whereabouts about 8 p.m.”

They were searching the whole time, just like you said they should have been. Just like any of our parents would have done if we didn’t turn up when expected. I hope you will rethink the way you instinctively assume the worst about people.

I think that analogy stinks. Education is a right in this Country so that is a pointless argument. There are ways to let your kids get independence within the boundaries of the law. My 15 year olds are very independent and I have no doubt will have the navigation skills they will need. I was in sort of a similar situation that I posted about above. It was very disturbing so I just decided to use better judgement about when and where they got their freedom. I really think the main reason why these people are in trouble is because of the 6 year old and not the 10 year old.

TRS – It’s a perfect analogy. In fact, in this very country, there was a time where it was illegal to educate blacks. And yet some very brave parents took big risks so their kids could learn to read and write.

Yes, education is a right in this country. But if you don’t defend your rights they are taken away.

I don’t believe it is possible to raise capable adults without giving them age-appropriate independence. I’ve met many of the “adults” of these parents who insist that their kids is so mature in spite of being helicoptered. And they are just deluding themselves.

@ Anna

You are correct. However the full law reads:

§5—801.

(a) A person who is charged with the care of a child under the age of 8 years may not allow the child to be locked or confined in a dwelling, building, enclosure, or motor vehicle while the person charged is absent and the dwelling, building, enclosure, or motor vehicle is out of the sight of the person charged unless the person charged provides a reliable person at least 13 years old to remain with the child to protect the child.

(b) A person who violates this section is guilty of a misdemeanor and on conviction is subject to a fine not exceeding $500 or imprisonment not exceeding 30 days, or both.

***

My guess is that if the older child was at least 13 years old, the Meitiv’s wouldn’t be having the problems that they’re currently having.

Jil – I sympathize with what happened to your children – but your statement at the end already defines your viewpoint : ” We live in a world where you cannot be too careful with the safety of your children.”

We live in a world where it is safer than *ever* to be a child – as evidenced over and over various studies.

What we live in is a world where a) people hear about every little bad thing that happens everywhere in the world and build up a false sense of how dangerous it is.

You said your children were molested while supervised – did the person doing the supervising molest them, were the children in a controlled environment with the molester? Logically, then, they would have been *safer* out playing in the park alone – where they could run away, where there could be other witnesses.

See how the paranoia makes things worse? “It’s too dangerous to let my kids play in the park while I do this – let me call my friend/relative to babysit them” –> and most child molestations are by friends and relatives. So, because we are paranoid, we blindly assume “well, *my* family/friends won’t do, it, so it *must* be safer than playing in the park….

Except it’s *NOT*

One group of terrorists seizes control of some planes and crashes them. Airlines around the world basically make their cockpits into safe-rooms. Mentally ill copilot locks out pilot with intent to crash the plane, and lo and behold, pilot can’t get back in to stop him…..because we *overreacted* to a one-time affair.

Risk assessment doesn’t eliminate risk – but it lets us see if our response makes sense.

Warren, buddy.. you have got some major anger issues. I am hoping you and I do not live in the same City or State because you are completely emotional and irrational. The frightening aspect of this is you actually had 3 kids and apparently allowed them to be ‘free range’ as well. Although in most cases I do not suspect the parents are being lazy, I think you were probably being lazy and hoping for some free time from your kids to yell and scream at your tv over some sporting event. Your awfully angry and probably white-knuckling your keyboard and mouse as you type.

Take a deep breath and pay attention. If I had seen your 10 year old, walking down the street with her two year old sister, a mile from home and by themselves, I would gladly call the police to have them check their welfare. You live in a little coccoon of denial if you think having your 10 year old watch your 2 year old was smart. It is a shear miracle nothing happened to any of your kids and frankly, I am glad for that. I do not wish any ills upon these children, or any kids.

The reality is simple, a lot of you people are living in denial and have no real concept of the evils that lurk in neighborhoods. There are FAR TOO many people out there who are willing and able to conduct the most horrendous acts upon themselves, each other and especially children.

Maybe you should take a closer look at this:
http://www.missingkids.com/KeyFacts
http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ncic/ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics-for-2014
https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/ojjdp/196467.pdf

There is a fine line between trying to stand your ground on an issue you feel strongly about…. and jeopardizing your child’s safety.

David,

We need to clear something up right away. I am very picky about who I call friend/buddy. You were neither invited nor wanted. David, you do not even come close to making the cut.

And please do not mistake disgust and contempt for anger. I have no anger towards you. I find you rather repulsive, but that does not trigger anger.

Let’s take a look at what you call a shear miracle. Of the hundreds of times, if not thousand of times total my kids enjoyed my trust and their freedom, we had not one incident. Nothing, no attempted abductions, no vehicle impacts, no nothing.
Now had every other child been killed, and mine survived, that would be a MIRACLE. But doing the same thing, hundreds or thousands of times, and producing the same results everytime is not a miracle. It is evidence, some may even say imperical evidence.

Sir, you can live in fear, you can be afraid, you can wrap your kids in bubble wrap, you can move to the city of their college, you can hold their hand until they are apply for pensions…………….I don’t care. What I do passionately care about is my kids, and I will be damned if I let cowards and mentally ill, and paranoia is a mental illness, people tell my kids how they have to raise their kids, my grandkids. And that is what you self righteous helicopter parents do. Is you scream for laws and regulations that hinder and hamper other parents, because you think you know better. When really you do not know better, you are just scared small people.

Donald,
No kidding. Look at the number of recalls of child products that haven’t ever caused an injury. But oh they just might. Same train of thought/insanity.

Warren.. chief.. pal..fella.. guy..dude…

Yeah, it’s safe to say we will not be friends. Thankfully. You have a lot of problems. I feel sorry for you. I think you mean well but you seem like a guy who runs around pulling his hair out and screaming like a baby when he does not get his way. I’d hate to see how you handle real adversity as opposed to someone who just thinks differently than you on a barely known web blog.

Seriously, bro.. chum.. mate.. partner…
I notice you did not take any time to comment on the any of the three links I posted. Rather you went straight to name calling, belittling and acting like a spoiled brat. I am guessing you hate taxes, do not vaccinate your kids, hate seat belt laws and shake your fist at ‘the man’ because they dare to tell you you should wear a bike helmet. You probably spend a lot of time yelling and screaming about the evils of government and interjecting their nefarious laws into your life.

Take a minute and look at the sites I listed. Sadly there are thousands of families who wish they had been lucky enough to not have a loved one abduction, murdered or sexually assaulted. It’s not an issue of living in fear, being a coward or raising kids in a bubble.

You are so narrow-minded and hell bent on spewing out nastiness that you have missed major points in each of my posts.

These kids should be allowed, encouraged and supported in their independence. Allowing the kids to play outside, spend time together and with other friends is all healthy and should be nurtured. However, it is irresponsible of these parents and you and your apparently adult children to be unaware of where your kids are. I am not advocating you GPS track your children, or prevent them from exploring or being adventurous. I am advocating these parents know where their kids are. If you kids are grown and they have kids (your grandchildren), then you and your kids are doubly irresponsible if you allow the grand kids to roam free for hours without knowing where they are. Yes, I think that makes you irresponsible. A 2 year old playing outside with their 10 year old sibling is fine. A 2 year old walking with a 10 year old to the park a mile or even half mile away is irresponsible.

David, conventionally, 6 pm is considered the beginning of evening, this is true.

But beyond that, you’re not making any sense. There is no more danger in a kid being out at 6 pm in April in Maryland, than at 3 pm. The fact that we have a cultural convention of calling it “evening” does not in any way make it less appropriate for a kid to be out at that time. It’s not dark, it’s not low light, it’s not even beginning to be low light.

Look out your window tonight at 6. If you live in the contiguous U.S., you should be able to observe that it will be broad daylight. If you look out again at 7, you will notice that it is still completely light out. There is absolutely no reason it’s inappropriate for children to be out at 6 in April, anywhere it’s appropriate for them to be out at 3.

Please do not feed the trolls (aka david).
Don’t justify his fear mongering with a reply and he will go away.

Age restrictions for allowing kids to do things like go to the park are meaningless. Some kids are fine at the park alone at 6. Some are not. All kids are different, which is why parents should be the one making these decisions.

On another note: I don’t understand how letting your kid play unattended is “lazy” parenting. When did self-righteous twats become the arbiters of good parenting? I don’t accept this arbitrary definition of “good parenting” that seems to have sprung up over the past 15 years or so.

Dirty,

It is the same as parents that do everything for their kids. They think because we let them handle stuff, we are lazy. They do not see the time and effort that goes into helping and teaching them how to handle things.

They basically do it to justify their lives, and make themselve feel superior.

That’s our local park. That’s where my husband or I take our daughter at least 3 days a week to play. My husband and daughter were there on Saturday playing from 4-6. It was the first nice day after 3 or more rainy ones. My husband said it was MOBBED with children of all ages. It’s always mobbed in the afternoon and I’d be hard-pressed to match children to parents. I know all the moms of pre-schoolers and all the pre-schoolers, I can’t keep the school-aged kids straight. I’m LIVID!

I grew up in a time when kids were free. I remember one time that my brother and I took off all day on our cousin’s 100 acre NH farm, where we lived. We got back at night, and our aunt, who was visiting, said they were worried about us and almost called the police to come find us. We were surprised and replied, that we knew that 100 acres better than anyone, and were having fun all day, until we were so tired we decided to go back to the house. Watching the Red Sox game the other night, I recalled to one of the guys I was with that the last time I went to a game I was about 9 or 10, and my brother and I took the bus and subway to Fenway Park alone, and did it all the time, without informing our grandparents, who we lived with at the time, even where we were going. It was a great life. I feel sorry for the young today.

@ David:

From http://www.missingkids.com/KeyFacts: “In 2014, there were 466,949 entries for missing children under the age of 18 into the FBI’s National Crime Information Center, also called NCIC.”

–> Your 1st two links use the exact same statistic and source — the FBI’s NCIC database. Of the 466, 949 entries entered into the NCIC :
1) 92,176 were for individuals age 21 or older
2) 269 were for individuals of any age that went missing after a catastrophe
3) 31,501 were for individuals of any age who were physically or mentally disability which could subject them to danger
4) 17,631 were for individuals of any age who are considered involuntarily missing, i.e. through abduction or kidnapping
5) 44,029 were for individuals of any age in which the circumstances suggest they may be in danger
6) 449,549 were for individuals of any age in which they didn’t fit into any of the above categories

In half of the above cases, individual agencies utilized the Missing Person Circumstances field on the form. Of those agencies that utilized the MPC field:

1) 301,851 (96.0 %) were coded as Runaway
2) 2,249 (.7 %) as Abducted by Non-custodial Parent
3) 332 (.1 %) as Abducted by Stranger
4) 10,091 (3.2 %) as Adult

From https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/ojjdp/196467.pdf was put out by the Department of Justice in 2002 and spanning the years 1997-1999. It’s used to offer national estimates of missing children based on surveys of
households, juvenile residential facilities, and law enforcement agencies.

–>”…the majority of non-family abduction victims (53 percent) are abducted by persons known to the child”. Of that 53%:
1) 38 percent of nonfamily abducted children were abducted by friend or long-term acquaintance
2) 5 percent by a neighbor
3) 6 percent by persons of authority
4) 4 percent by a caretaker or babysitter

And, according to the same document: “The NISMART—2 findings reinforce the…conclusion that teenage girls [ages 15-17] are the most frequent targets of nonfamily abductions and stereotypical kidnappings.”

Additionally, of the above study’s reported 58,200 non-family abductions, 115 were what are considered “stereotypical” kidnappings. In other words…approximately .00002% of the estimated 70,172,700 children nationwide were the victim of a stereotypical kidnapping between 1997 and 1999.

David, the problem with blindly copying and pasting links without actually reading what is in the links is that eventually someone like me (who loves doing research) will come along and actually go through the information to see if there is any validity to your point.

“What if one of them did something as silly as break their ankle from landing wrong?” asks JustaMom

Why do you even have to ask. Obviously a nice helpful parent such as you or me would call their parents. The parents would be there in a few minutes and the kids would be driven home or to the hospital as circumstances dictate. The prevalence of cell phones make it easier than ever to lend a hand to a lost or distressed kid.

When I was 8 I took a nasty crash on my brand new bike. A stranger stopped, threw my bike in the trunk of his car, me in the front seat and had me home in a flash. My parents gave the kind stranger sincere thanks, but I am pretty sure they didn’t beat themselves up that they “should have been there” to protect me.

“Rely on strangers to borrow a cell phone?”

Occasionally relying on the kindness of strangers is not a bad thing at all. For me it inspires feelings of gratitude and faith in my fellow humans

I like and have always supported Free Range Kids. That Ms Skenazy allowed her 9 year old to ride the subway alone never phased me. My opinion, however, has changed given the snarkiness of the comments made against Marion. If this is a “movement” of “reason” then all reasonable opinions should be allowed and considered in this forum. Frankly I’m concerned that no one in this forum has addressed the real possibility that the Meitivs are using their kids to make a point. What “reasonable” parent would flagrantly ignore the authorities and be surprised that their children were taken into custody when they knew they were being monitored by CPS? This whole situation could’ve been avoided had the Meitivs followed the instructions of the authorities. The ballot box is where you make policy changes – not using your kids to make an example.

Obviously the parents have a right to allow their children whatever level of independence they think they can handle and the authorities are out of line describing this situation as treatment as neglect.

I believe that the world is no safer or more dangerous for children than it was when I was a kid, but a lot of factors go into it. Where you live, how you prepare your children, etc. I do think these parents did nothing wrong, I do not think it is ok for parents to let their kid ride the subway alone in NYC.

Also, I just have to say, this is not a movement. Free Range Kids? I think it is great for parents to have a resource where they can connect and discuss their parenting styles, but letting your kids play in their neighborhood is more of a tradition than a movement. It is the way its always been, and obviously the way it should always be.

The safety of a police car? That was probably one of the most terrifying places the kids had ever been forced to visit!

@Beth
“Ya know @justamom, people survived almost all of civilization without cell phones.”

No, they didn’t. Everyone born before the 20th century is now dead. If they’d had cellphones, they’d still be alive!

@Kim — I think Donna made that same point earlier (I know there are a lot posts here). I think it’s possible to agree with what the Meitivs want to do in regard to their kids, and also consider that putting the kids between them and the authorities might actually created unnecessary stress on these 6 & 10 yo kids.

I’m not familiar with what the plan/agreement was with CPS/legal issues following the first incident. If they were being fully compliant, that’s one thing. If they agreed to something they weren’t actually doing, then they were putting the kids between them and the authorities.

Sounds like an awful situation. I hate that it’s come to this.

Since when? 10 year olds have always looked after younger siblings. I did when I was a kid, and many kids before me. I know what you’re going to say, “Things were different then.” Okay, lets look at today:
Mexico, A prolonged drug war. Kids still go out and play by them selves. Eastern Europe, Kids still run errands miles away for their parents. The middle east, Kids still walk to school despite the threats of bombings and air strikes. They get on alright.They survive and grow to be adults with out a lot of the emotional baggage that American kids get from just walking down the street get. These kids learn to navigate the dangers in their societies,so why can’t American children learn to deal with the less critical dangers or our nation? I think the simple answer is this, In other nations they raise adults that will lead their nations,we raise children that will be dependent on ours.

Donna,
In one interview I do believe the mom said they won’t be letting them out until this is resolved.

I don’t want to be an advocate for violence, but the ridiculousness of this farce makes my blood boil to the point where it certainly is tempting. The “neighbors” in this case are wholly contempible pieces of gutter trash, and I wouldn’t be surprised if I found out they were still hiding in anonymity behind their Gladys Kravitz brand drapes.

This has gotten far beyond ridiculous. Has anyone set up a go fund me campaign or something similar to get these people donations to move out of this neofascist police state they live in?

I understand that they want to stand their ground, but the police have already shown themselves here to be beligerant, unreasonable and at the ready to continually escalate this further at every step. At this point it has to be obvious that this situation has to either end by the Meitivs capitulating to the thug tactics employed against them, resort to violence in their own defense of just simply leave, unless they are prepared to give their children up permanently to these jackbooted criminals. I STRONGLY suggest the last option, since the first two can never bring these people anything resembling peace.

I am new to this site, So I apologize if I am treading too far out with this comment, but CPS and the police there are far and beyond the pale with their immoral behavior. Is there any way to just get these people out of there?

Warren, I assumed the willingness on the part of the Meitivs to sign the safety plan meant that they wouldn’t be sending them out. I was speaking more to the people here who say that they hope that the Meitivs continue to send their children out – basically turning their children into modern day Rosa Parks. I don’t believe that is a suitable rule for children this young. If they were older, sure, but not at these young ages.

We are being played like a $2 fiddle. It is the GOVERNMENT who is the criminal. In bed with the media, the government is conning America into racism and resistance against police. Eventually, this will lead to even more government intrusion into our lives. Enter: Police State and Martial Law. Think about it. The police are already armed for war. They are trained to subdue and suppress citizens. They have been trained to say things like, “I smell marijuana.” when there is none just so they can force body, home and vehicle searches. And Check Points! Really? Papers please. Welcome to the 1930s and Nazi America.

I was a paper boy when I was 11 y/o and out alone in very early hours before daylight. I guess that is child neglect these days.

“The couple signed a temporary safety plan to get their children released and they plan to obey it. They’re not allowed to let the children out of their sight even to play in the yard or walk to the school bus.”

This is nothing but a trap. How do these CPS officials sleep at night?

“In one interview I do believe the mom said they won’t be letting them out until this is resolved.”

Wasn’t it supposed to have been resolved after the last go round? Short of a license signed by the head of CPS and the governor authorizing these kids to walk to and from the park and to play by themselves, I don’t see how the Meitivs can let their children out until they’re 18. They are living in a police state (which I’m guessing Mr. Meitiv thought he had escaped). I’d love to see them fight this and win, but if I were in their shoes, I’d move.

@ Donald

From how I was reading it, “As Adult” means that they went missing as an adult. While that number has nothing to do with missing children, the number of missing cases that David cut and pasted is comprised of ALL missing cases entered into the NCIC database (both adults and children).

-“When I was 6 my neighbors sent their 5 year old across the street (alone) to come fetch me so we could spend an hour or so rollerskating together. Neither of us were supervising the other. When my mom was 5 she was the 2nd farthest home from the school and walked her block with just one other kindergartener who then continued on around the corner alone. There is nothing about this age that is incapable of walking from point A to point B in reasonable safety.”-

Yep, and back when my parents were babies their parents just threw them in the back of the station wagon with no baby seat. Let’s not pretend that just because kids survived the past means that it’s the best way to do something.

On a clear day with no distractions and everything going predictably as it should, yes, small children can do anything by themselves. My baby can play in the other room by herself and be fine. It’s when unpredictable things happen, like a kitten in the road and the child darts out in front of a car to pet it. Small children simply don’t have the brain development to properly evaluate danger and not act impulsively. Even “advanced” children lack this basic ability by physical brain development alone. Child judgement simply isn’t good enough to be on their own at a small age, like 6.

-“The parents aren’t even giving their children means to handle an emergency if one arises.”
Nonsense. The kids know their way around, they undoubtedly know how to discern adults from children, and how to clearly articulate what their problem is. How to tell which houses are occupied and which aren’t. If a business is open or closed. The know their home address and parent’s phone number. And they probably know more than that. They have tools to handle an emergency.-

The fact that their parents had no idea where they were and they had no way of contacting their parents contradicts this statement. An emergency arose, and they had no clue how to handle it. They simply got in the back of a police car on a policeman’s say so, because he was an authority figure and to a child all authority figures must be obeyed. They could have refused to get in the car and nothing would have happened to them. In fact, they didn’t even know what to do while CPS was holding them, they were probably scared and clueless. There are no reports of the children demanding the phone to speak with their parents. They just went along with what was happening. That’s not exactly calm and collected thinking needed for independence, and that’s exactly the point I’m trying to make. Something unpredictable happened, and they as children predictably didn’t have anything other than child reasoning skills.

If it was a true emergency where someone was injured or hurt, I’m not confident their ability to problem solve would be any greater than it was then. They were given a test and failed, and not on any failure of them. They just simply didn’t process something the way an adult would and that’s why adults need to be either in easy contact or easy reach. These parents failed their children by providing neither.

-The chances of them both simultaneously breaking their ankles is astronomically small. The uninjured kid fetches help, or helps the injured one home. Same as my friends and I did in any number of accidents. And yes they ask someone to let them call home if needed. That is the point of memorizing the parent’s phone number. In the last 5 years I have let two kids borrow my cell phone because their parents were very late picking them up from school. My parents refuse to get cell phones and yet have no trouble borrowing one when needed.-

And in the mean time leave the other child stranded? Or make a child walk home on a broken ankle? No. At that age, parents NEED to be in easy reach. No exceptions. They either need to be their in person, or a click of a finger away. If the child is ready for independence they won’t use it, if they aren’t it’s a good safety net.

-They are doing this because they are defending their children’s rights. You can no more have an adult take the place of Devora (6) and Rafi Meitive (10) in this fight, than you could replace Rosa Parks with a white man. If our children are to have any rights at all, some time, somewhere, someone had to fight back. I worry about if Devora and Rafi understood the risks they were taking with the cops. But it is a worthy cause if the kids are on board.-

No, children do no have the ability to give informed consent. I could convince my child it was a good idea to jump off a bridge, any parent could. They are not old enough to understand risks and consequences, therefore “being on board” counts for naught from a child. They used their children as pawns in THEIR fight to parent as they want. This has nothing to do with kids having the freedom to go to the park. They CAN go to the park, their parents can be within the vicinity. This isn’t the children’s fight, it’s theirs. Children adapt, they’d be just as happy at the park with their parents as they would be without.

-This isn’t about refusing something to the children. It is about giving them freedom. Why must they be kept home doing chores? Especially when their physical need for exercise doesn’t line up with their parent’s need to get things done. My mom taught me to do chores, yes. But when I was old enough to go to the park alone an announcement that mom needed to do dishes was an open invite for me to go to the park. Mom let me go instead of drying dishes for the thousandth time. Because she understood that children have an enormous need for exercise and exploration. And at a certain point, not only don’t they have a deep need for supervision, they have a need to test their wings and leave the nest.-

I’m not sure how you do dishes, but if you do them every day, they only take 15 minutes to get done and I don’t have a dishwasher. It’s not hard to let the kids play all day and do dinner and chores in the evening. So being too busy to take your child out doesn’t hold any weight. If you’re too busy to take your child outside, time to rearrange your schedule and work on time management skills.

-Being there “in case of an emergency” short circuits the child’s need to solve problems on their own and discover their inner strength. It wasn’t fun, when I catapulted from my bike and limped home with much of the right side of my body skinned and bleeding. But it was an amazing, wondrous experience. I learned that I could suppress panic, and that much of the pain was really from my fear. I learned what it was like to come through the initial shock and that one should sit and wait a bit after an injury before attempting to determine what can and can’t be done. Oh, my parents and teachers had tried to tell me these things many times. But it didn’t mean anything, until I discovered it on my own. This and other accidents, bestowed on me a firm faith that I can and will find a way through whatever life throws at me. My helicoptered friend doesn’t have that confidence and it hurts her in ways that I wish everyone who considers helicoptering harmless could see. The confidence to handle an emergency is critical. And playground level injuries are excellent for building that confidence with minimal risk. Why would I intentionally deprive my child of something so critical to living well?-

I too wiped out on my bike as a child (multiple times), and I was glad to have my parents nearby to help bandage me up. I knew I could depend on them and grew up to be a dependable and independent adult because of the skills I learned from them first hand by their example.

You can be nearby without being a helicopter parent. I supervise my toddler at the play ground and don’t step in when kids push her, because I want her to learn problem solving skills and to have the confidence to do that. When she falls, she gets right back up without needing to be coddled. I will say compared to other children her age, she is very independent and confident. But I will always be there during her primary years so she knows that if she needs me, I’m always there for her.

There is a huge difference between being there for your child, and problem solving for your child. You can be there without hovering.

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To whom this may concern:

The issue is not ‘do the children have the right to be – free range – but rather “who” is watching those children while no familial adult is present?’ If you are talking about children playing in a park setting which is open to all there is typically no supervision on hand. If you are instead speaking of neighborhoods where children and adults know the residents intimately, that is, by sight, conversations, interactions at the local stores anchored by familial exchanges… then this is another matter.

You say you were freaked out because of the time spent in ‘secure custodial settings’, I must ask just why you are not more freaked out by the innumerable possibilities of violence and harm your children could have experienced at the hands of unknown person or persons. Do you not see the difference?

Free range?

The matter really comes down to who is in the position of having to look after your children while you are not. This places an extreme burden on anyone who is in the vicinity of those children, whether they are yours or someone else’s. Now the responsibility that is by law rightfully yours, the parents, has shifted to anyone who is nearby to watch over – non-contractually [as opposed to with a nanny] – to safeguard the security of those children. Is this fair?

Is this fair? This is where the police enter the picture. As community-based employees, they are performing the tasks set before them. In other words – doing their jobs. This is why they patrol your neighborhoods, watch after those who seem to be unattended. That they chose to take your children into ‘custody’ while as you claim not notifying you…that is for your courts to decide.

And if “Maresi” or “Pophouse” any of the other permissives out there question my right to sit here and comment – how are you any better than the CPS? So, back off right now.

Growing up in mixed neighborhoods, farm areas and suburbs I had plenty of opportunities to experience diversity of who was and was not friendly, knowing the stories behind the house that had 22 kids, the little girl whose skin was so fragile you could have read fine print through it, or the kids who came to school battered and bruised by aggressive parenting. As kids in the rural community, we would challenge each other to races and endurance tests ever hoping to enhance our physical abilities. In close-knit neighborhoods it was all about racing bikes and discovering who the neighbors were along with their stories and houses to stay away from.

No where in the recounting of this original story did I read of the parents’ concern for who might have had their children – other than the police and CPS. This is hardly representative of a concerned parent and to me more worrisome than being in the care of the local authorities. Maybe the police should be more moderate in their monitoring of children. But ages 6 and 10 with brains not even half formed [research shows not until mid-20’s does the brain qualify as fully developed] I would say you are hedging your bets that your children would know what to do in true instances of stranger danger.

This to me is shameful parenting. As a single who could not physically procreate I am amazed at what you claim passes as parenting. Maybe you are good parents within the confines of your four walls, but to the rest of the world you have some explaining to do. God forbid your children ever experience any actual danger. Any attempt to take this to court should be considered a frivolous law suit, whereas, any law suit coming from without has a right to be heard – society should not have to pay for your mistakes and frivolity. And yes, I would come to the aid of anyone I thought was in need – Good Samaritan-style – but unnecessary risks of free-range behaviors – that is another matter all together.

I can tell you that my ‘children-antennae’ emerge especially in the absence of parents.

In the end you all probably chose to live in those neighborhoods because of a ‘safety factor’ that you would have researched before plunking down 1.5M for your little 3500 sq ft 4-bdrm bungalow. Check your insurance policies and get back to me. You moved there because of a police presence and the security it provides. If you hackles are up you can only imagine what mine are like. Permissiveness be damned, when everyone else is having to do the job of the parents! Shame on you.

To: Kate Kobylarz :
I think most reasonable people would ignore kids playing by themselves. I know I would. Not because I don’t care, But because it’s none of my business. Interfering with children playing happily by themselves to me is the same as walking up to an adult reading a book in the park and asking him if someone knows where he is. If I see a child in intimate danger, I’ll step in and help. So will most people. It doesn’t matter if their adults or children. That’s what communities do. It’s not about raising other people’s kids, it’s helping others.

” I care about children, and as such I will happily report children who do not have parents with them in public areas. I’d rather report them and give a parent a headache than to do nothing and find out they’re on the missing persons list the next day.”

You see, this is what separates you from other people. While others are willing to allow for differences in parenting methodologies, you are fully admitting that you are prepare to report parents who don’t fall in line with your preconceived notions of how people are to raise their children. I’m sorry, but it’s plain to see that you would be quite comfortable living in a fascist police state, as you’ve indicated your comfort level at calling the police and informing on others. This doesn’t make a concerned citizen; no, this makes you a tyrant.

Andrew – That is exactly what they would be doing if they continued letting their children roam at this time – which they are not actually doing so I am speaking completely hypothetically. There is an excellent chance that those kids would end up in foster care if they continue to go to the park alone. Even if the Meitivs ultimately won the war, the children still would have suffered the trauma of being removed from their home and placed with strangers for some period of time. The decision to continue to do something you KNOW is almost certainly going to result in your children being removed from their home, regardless of what you feel about the legality of it, is all about you and not about them.

Okay, all those people like Justamom wins. I am changing my ways, and taking it all the way.
From now on…….

Women walking alone or in pairs will be reported to the police to protect them against mugging and rapist and human traffickers. Better to be picked up by the police than some criminal.

Elderly abuse is high these days, so I am calling the police everytime I see some elderly person in the company of someone younger.

Dog theft. Anytime I see someone tie the dog up infront of the store or wherever, calling the cops.

Do I need to go on, because that is what these people are advocating.

“But again, I’d rather give a parent a headache than find out that the child was actually lost and is now missing”

By the way, here’s another thought, justamom – why don’t you ask the kids if they are lost or in trouble instead of calling the cops? I know, I know, that takes effort and actual involvement on your part, and it doesn’t come with quite the same level of self-gratification of feeling that you have done your civic duty, but it’s what a neighbor would do.

@JustAMom:

Nobody is questioning your right to comment. They’re telling you they disagree:

See this comic for further details: https://xkcd.com/1357/

If the police are so convinced that terrible people are roaming the streets trying to kidnap children, I suggest that they try arresting the people they believe are predators instead of locking up the children. Seems to me that the time spent harassing this family would be better spent, oh, I don’t know, fighting crime. So either the police let a lot of real criminals wander around unchecked during the hours they kept these kids up past their bedtimes without any food, or the streets are a lot safer than they want people to believe.

i’d say having a membership page is pretty neglegent, i would not sign up for any site that would attract predators, as this obviously would.
i don’t know why you would want to do this? your kids will be old enough soon, but the creation of a membership blog because “as a parent” you want support for the notion that it’s ok to leave your children unsurpervised at what is generally recognized as being an unsuitable age, and in so you risk creating an online database of folks that also leave their children unattended for hours. You seem very self centered.
Instead of looking for parental support on a blog, how about putting your concern for your kids well being at the forefront?

I grew up in the neighborhood where this incident happened. My older brother was put in charge of seeing me safely from school to home each day, while Mom was at home with the baby. I always felt completely safe, and knew the rules about “strangers”. I understand the CPS and MC police having concerns about this, but feel they went way overboard with their actions. A parent knows their child and must give the child the independence to grow or else we will have a society of dependent, entitled young people in the next generation.

JustAMom doesn’t care about children, she cares about being RIGHT and everyone KNOWING that she’s RIGHT, and if they don’t cow tow to her edict, she’s pulling out the cattle prods–er, phone.

The word “tyrant” comes to mind. So does the word that rhymes with “hitch.”

“The word “tyrant” comes to mind. So does the word that rhymes with “hitch.””

You do know you can type the word “bitch”.

There was a 4 year old that hopped on a bus without her parents knowledge at 3am to get a slushie.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/27/girl-hops-bus-slushie_n_6959230.html

Are you trying to imply that the bus driver should have just looked the other way to “respect parenting”? Because if he had, she could very well have been wandering for quite some time before ever being found, if ever. Sometimes when kids go to parks or are somewhere without an adult, it’s because they wandered off and their parents are frantically looking for them. It’s good to contact the authorities in these cases.

Did you also know that cases of neglect are hardest to catch because people decide to “mind their own business”? For every well adjusted kid out there, there are also neglected kids out there wandering around. I leave it to the authorities to sort through it, as I am not arrogant enough to believe I am judge, jury and executioner.

As I said, I will call the cops for an unattended child, and they will use their best discretion. Contrary to popular belief, the police don’t obey my every command. If it’s neglect it’s beneficial to the child to look into it. Child abuse happens because people like you refuse to “get involved”.

This “stick it to the man” attitude is all well and good on a 17 year old rebel without a cause, but not for an adult who has social responsibilities to their community. You are expected to think outside your own little world as you are doing now.

Justamom – Have you considered that if you really care about children as much you claim you care about them, that by constantly calling about every unsupervised child and every case of parenting you disagree with “just to be safe” that you are in fact wasting the limited police and CPS resources such that actual real abused and neglected children will suffer and not get the help they need? While they are investigating your stupid, pointless self-righteous call, there could be a child somewhere else literally being beaten to death by their parents or being starved because CPS hasn’t been able to get back to checking on them. In fact, you could actually have the real death of real children on your hands because of your penchant for calling for no reason. Instead of worrying about whether you could have prevented that missing child you saw on the evening news, maybe you should worry if you could have prevented that child on the news who died in the care of their parents because the CPS workload was too large. “Maybe if I hadn’t called about that unsupervised child in the park, CPS would have been able to save that child in time.” Maybe those child deaths are actually YOUR fault and the fault of people like you.

There’s a HUGE difference between a 4 year old child out at 3am, and two siblings – 10 & 6 – walking home from a park together at 5pm on a nice Sunday afternoon.

to just a mom: you say you just call the police but don’t tell them what to do, so it’s not your fault. what the h*** did you think they would do? you would call the police knowinf full well how they and cps would respond[and if you don’t i suggest moving out from under that rock where you’re living] you bnot concerned about the kid, you want to not only be a hero but to feel vindicated that it’s your way or the highway. what a selffish vindictive additude. you’re not god or mary poppins, you’re just another mother with her views of right and wrong. what happens when one of your kid gets called on by yet another “concerned” parent? battling parent wars? you would be put throuogh hell by the authorities, just as you would put others. stop being the “only right “parenting”martyr. as someone else said get down off your cross, tear it apart build a bridge and get over it!

This entire situation just baffles me. As a mom, I know my children and I know which situations they are ready for and which ones they are not ready for. When my son was younger, we let him go to our neighborhood playground with his friends. No adults were there to supervise and it was a few blocks away. The very idea that this is endangerment or neglect is absurd. If so, then my parents and ALL of my friends parents were guilty of neglect. Government agencies and police have far too much power and control these days. As a parent, the entire situation really enrages me. Those poor kids must have been so terrified being held by the police. Way to show kids that the police are there to help! I bet if these children ever TRULY need the police, they will be to afraid to ask for assistance.