Never Post a Baby Photo on Facebook?

Yay you! That’s brilliant.

Good for you. More than 10 years ago I was accused by a co-worker of downloading porn. The picture was my cousin’s child from the hospital nursery. (Just realized that child is graduating HS this year so 17 – 18 years ago). My boss fired the other person (wasn’t her first slander against me).

My whole family posts pictures of the kids on facebook. We are spread across 5 countries on multiple continents.

A few years ago I had a parent upset. My screen saver on my personal laptop scrolls through my pictures. The parent’s child asked me who someone was by the time I turned around the picture was gone. The student describe the picture, and I shrugged and said one of my cousins. I actually got called into the principal’s office about this.

I prepared a “6 pack” of pictures that matched the student’s description. The Mom insisted they were of the same child (3 boys/3 girls all cousins). Till I showed her a picture of all 6 kids standing together. Principal held in the laughter till the Mom stormed out. He agreed with me that my family could cast a movie about cloned kids very easily.

I love the response. Some people can pedophile panic about anything.

That’s a quick way to land yourself off my friends list…and to lose your access to my baby’s cute naked butt pictures.

I encountered the same issue after posting a video on YouTube of my butt-naked 5-month old eating a scone.

You see I was just trying to get my head around the food thing and was asking for advice on a ‘Baby Led Weaning’ message board. (was she too young, is this enough head control etc).

I was inundated with responses from nervous forum members. Not because they thought I was feeding her too early but because a pervert could steal the picture and Photoshop a lewd act onto it… And imagine how that could scar her.

As much as I don’t like the thought of a pedophile using a photo of my daughter I also fail to see how it would scar her (unless I located a copy and put it in the family album?!?!?).

My concern with photos on Facebook is the child’s privacy and parents in a rush to get them an online identity so early. It has nothing to do with pedophiles. And anyway, don’t people have their privacy set so that only trusted viewers can see photos?

Why is it when I post photos of myself flying commando on a bear skin rug all the sex perverts turn themselves in to the nearest police station?

To me, this is a good reason to only have actual FRIENDS on your FB friends list.

Very sensible response, I’ll have to remember it for the next time a concerned friend or relative complains about pictures of my son.

There are people sexually attracted to trees so what to do with that? Cut down all forests?

Larry: I would not be so gung ho about forcing them to have their picture taken all the time. It might backfire one day when they are grown up and will get back at you by never letting you take their photo as an adult. If you just take pics like a normal parent, then no biggie. But if you go overboard about it, they might rebel like kids are known to do on anything parents are super forceful about.

The reason I have Facebook is to share photos like that with my children’s grandparents, who live far away. And I’m comfortable making that choice for my kids.

I have done my first self-censor. An adorable pic of my two sons in the bath, facing the other way, the 1 year old giving his 5 year old brother a big hug. A hint of visible butt cheeks. However, one of the friends on my mailing list has kids around the same age and in the same school as the 5 year old. One girl has teased one of my boys based on private information from visiting our home, so I don’t trust her. If her mom didn’t have the link to that photo album, I probably would have posted it.
I don’t worry about their “online identity” at this age. No one will hold a pic their mother took while they were small children against them. If they can even find it. We have very common first and last names. It would require some serious sleuthing in 20 years to pin that photo on my son. I don’t think my 5 year old would be targeted by bath soap companies because of a tub-time photo. I think that the benefit of sharing my kids photos with friends and families FAR outweighs the miniscule risk of posting their photos. With their real names.

Let me ask the question that has bothered me forever. So some sicko DOES steal my picture and use it for pedophile-esque acts. Yes, if I knew about it it would bother me, but how would I ever know???

Try having a pedophile’s picture in your wedding album. I did. THAT’S bothersome. (Yes, he and my sister divorced. He’s in prison and has left a wake of destruction in his path.)

Well Donna, there are many things you don’t know. Maybe a good reason not to insult someone before you know the facts. For one thing, my sister in law (her daughter) still has contact with her father. The man that my husband has zero contact with for many good reasons one of them being he is on the predator list. Yep, so I don’t want pictures being passed on to this man of my kids. I don’t trust him not to try to find us and contact us. Sister in law has talked to him about us before and given him info about us and I had to yell at her.

Another thing is mother in law showed pics of the boys after they were born to a mutual friend of hers and my father. So that friend then forwarded pics of the boys to my father so that he got pics of his grandsons before his own daughter had a chance to send him pics of his new grandsons. I was busy with recovering from a c section and trying to nurse and all that good stuff and I did not appreciate my father getting second hand pics of his own grandsons through mother in law when I specifically told her not to do that.

You have no idea all the crap that woman pulls so don’t even start. How about that I registered as private patient at the hospital for privacy. So only way someone could call the hospital room was if I gave them the number. I told MIL the number but told her not to give it to anyone else. Yet, somehow BIL and SIL called my hospital room bothering me and tried to force their way into a visit. That woman has no boundaries so I have to put them on her.

Love your strong and assured (and accurate) response. Way to go!

I posted this before I saw Dolly‘s response. I will make it quick.

I am sorry, Dolly, really I am, for the drama your mother-in-law has apparently brought to your life. It does sound like she has been evil in many ways, and that’s not okay of her.

I would only say this: if your mother “lets you handle it” and doesn’t disagree with that arrangement you two have made, that’s fine–but she shouldn’t be COMPELLED to in the general sense, and in general other parents should be okay with their parents, the grandparents, sharing such matters without having to get security clearances from them first. I am sorry, seriously, for what your mother-in-law has done, all I am saying is that IN GENERAL for parents to insist “all photos of my kids go through me” etc is a bit ridiculous in the general sense. I can tell you I’d refuse to honor it, and if that person cut me off, fine–but I won’t honor such demands because I think (again in the general sense) they’re ridiculous.

LRH

In my case, all the cute bare-baby-butt photos are carefully saved until my kids bring their BF/GFs home to meet us… Not to give the pics away, but just to show them, you know, granny-style, to embarrass my kids in “revenge” for all the nuisance they’re causing now.
About FB, I have to admit I’m not at all proficient with new technologies, so I rather not give too much information about myself, and thus I’m not even in FB. I’ve landed myself in too many commercial databases for my taste…

sigh, I posted a private photo album (as in you had to be invited to see it and enter a password) of the first month of our babies’ lives. One picture was of my daughter fresh out of the womb and showed her girly parts. I did get some comments on the inappropriate nature of such a provocative picture. Oh the evils of nakedness, it all started with a fig leaf.

There are just some relatives that should not have pics to send out. My husband and I did not want our kids pictures on Myspace (back when it was popular) and we made the mistake of letting my MIL have a digital copy, she passed it on to everyone and two of my sisters in law posted the pics on myspace, with open pages that anyone could read. Including a lot of my husband’s x-gfs. Who are crazy. (His x-wife even stalked my myspace page)

So no more digital pics for Grandma. We only gave her prints after that. (She’s far too lazy to try and make copies somewhere.) After that no problems with pictures.

LRH: I totally agree in normal relationships there is no problem with grandparents or others sharing pics of kids. But when some people have messed up families or no boundaries or bad relationships, then yes, sometimes restrictions have to be made. That is all I am saying and in my case, I made them because there was lack of respect for boundaries and messed up people involved.

Dolly, How is it not your mother-in-law’s place to show her friends pictures of her grandkids? My mother is amazingly proud of her only grandchild (my daughter) and likes to introduce her to her friends and show off her pictures. Why should I care? Having a grandma who gushes about her to all her friends is certainly not a negative in my daughter’s life. Same with my step-father, my mother’s boyfriend (Mom is not still married to step-father), my grandmother, my aunt, my brother, all of whom think my daughter is the greatest and like to show her off whenever they can.

You seem to want your kids to be yours and yours alone with no acceptance that they are part of a larger family who loves them, is proud of them and wants to share them with people who are close to them (or the checker at Walmart or anyone else who will stop and look at the picture).

Yes! I very much believe that the more we hide our bodies, the more we teach shame in nakedness, the more “bad” and sexualized it becomes. I recently saw a mom scolding her 2-year-old for pulling her shirt up and patting her belly. What could be more innocent? Why scold? Why teach that skin is sexual and wrong?

Life IS too short. Amen.

Pedos don’t get off on “naked baby pictures.” They get off on specifically staged pictures where the children are made to do things and sit in provocative poses. The problem is that the average person doesn’t know the difference between “staged provocative pose” and “childhood innocence.”

I have a few photos that I know if they ever went to a film lab to be developed, I’d get the police called on me – even though they are completely innocent photos of what my children were doing. I look at the photo with the eye of what someone who is over zealous in their job of “protecting children” and the photos stays hiding away on a drive not connected to anything we have. Maybe in another decade, I’ll be able to print them, but not now.

When parents can and have been thrown into jail for innocent pictures because some “well meaning” jerk goes too far, you gotta wonder what society’s hive mind is thinking. 30 years ago, naked photos of kids were “fun” and “harmless.” today, they are potentially the reason why mommy and daddy, or grandma and grandpa, or auntie and uncle, go to jail.

I just know that I wish my in-laws showed some interest in my kids aside from the obligatory birthday card. They never call to ask about them, never ask for pictures, and barely interact with them when we are together. Must be nice to have somewhat ‘normal’ grandparents who actually acknowledge the kids’ existance.

LRH – just because there are other ways to share photos online doesn’t make those ways preferable than Facebook. My parents in-laws like being able to comment and see other people’s comments. We use Facebook to share photos and updates about our kids with their grandparents, and I think it’s a great way to keep them up to date and as involved as they can be from so far away.

I sent out Christmas cards featuring my daughter’s naked butt one year when she refused to put on the matching dress I got to go with her two siblings and ran off naked.
Everyone said it was the best card they got.

People need to get a grip. Children love to be naked (better than itchy, fancy dresses) and we have to get over our stupid paranoia and enjoy some innocent moments.

“Women have had babies kidnapped out of their home because they had the storks in the front yard broadcasting they had a newborn inside”

Could you name three of these women? Or two? Or how about one? One woman who had a newborn kidnapped out of their home specifically because of the stork in the front yard.

I think the response was fabulous! Naked babies have been photographed for forever, and before that, they were painted. They appear is cherubs on the Sistine Chapel and heck, even Jesus’s “front bits” are all over the place in museums and churches. And yes, there were pedophiles back then too.

Guys, lay off Dolly. One of the things about Free ranging is that you make your own decisions about how free range you want to go, and that’s ok.

Dolly prefers not to have her children’s photos posted all over the place. Some families prefer that, and her husband is comfortable with that too, so it’s not just her. Her MIL may be the grandma, but if we can ignore grandmas who gulp and gasp at every fall by a toddler, we can probably ignore this grandma’s wish to be grandmotherly all over her workplace and her church. That’s not about loving Dolly’s children, it’s about showing off.

And if she was taking the kid off to stuff her with junk food and watch TV instead of running around outside, we’d all be supporting Dolly’s wish to ignore her.

H

That sounds precious Lollipop lover! I have no prob with kids with naked butts. As long as the parents are okay with it, then there is no issue.

I had their 2 year old picture sent out to friends and family and one son was making a “Go to hell, piss off!” face at the camera. It was hilarious! We could not get him to smile or not look pissed off so we chose the funniest one and sent it and ordered it. Why not!? That was his personality at the time so it worked. Everyone loved it and found it too funny!

SKY: Wanted to add that again, I have no problem with people putting storks in yard or whatever and don’t think it will result in a kidnapping. But I personally just did not want that. My right. I was fairly crazy at first with my twins because they were after a long battle with infertility and miscarriages and they were fragile preemies so I went overboard on a lot of things. I have calmed down a lot as time went on. Either way, it is not going to hurt my kids if the stork is not there or if it is. That is for the parents, not the babies. I don’t mind doing without it, so its gone. Big whoop . That is the point I am trying to make. I was uncomfortable with it and that’s that. I am a private person about a lot of stuff.

Heather: “I do know someone to whom this happened—his daughter’s picture found on a kiddie-porn site.”

So your friend was visiting pedophile sites? I dont understand how else he/she would “find” the photo.

When parents say things like “it’s unfair for my child to have images published out of their control”–again, I think this is part of the “psychobabble” parenting we see a lot of nowadays–and I realize I’m probably violating “free range” a little bit with disrespecting other parenting principles. (However FreeRange as I understand it is also about not freaking out about things not worth freaking about, and it’s also about community vs being so overly territorial.)

But at some point, c’mon already. This strikes me as being no different than the parents who made headlines about how their child “Storm” was of an unknown gender even to their grandparents because they didn’t want society “dictating gender to them.”

Be still my beating heart. When I was growing up, no one gave a fig what I thought about my image being in someone else’s camera–and that was the RIGHT point of view. I was the child, they were the adult, that was their priveledge, I was out of line and a total NOBODY to dare question it. And I think that was the RIGHT way. Yes that does open the door to abuse, but it MUCH MORE than that opens the door for kids to be spoiled brats who don’t obey anybody but their parents–if even them. This whole “my child doesn’t like they don’t have a vote in the matter”–please, they’re children, they’re not SUPPOSED to have a vote in the matter. They’re minors, they have no choice, nor SHOULD they.

Dolly, what I think a lot of people are saying is this (and again I mean no disrespect to your specific situation per se): the environment should be to where EVERYONE shares in the joy of one’s new baby, and feels free & comfortable taking and sharing photos all they want and feeling free to “just show up” at the hospital wthout having make appointments first etc, because it’s part of the joy of life, it’s about bonding and sharing the experience with you the parents, and it never has been (and still isn’t) about infringing on the parent’s “space” or privacy etc. (Again I am talking in generalities & not attacking you and/or your specific situation.)

What you are describing reminds me of friends we had recently who thought it was rude for you to come over to their house without calling first. Apparently they’re the CEO of Exxon and don’t want other people “just barging in unannounced” without making an appointment with their secretary first. Messy house concerns etc aside, I always thought that was pretentious–and I still do (and we’re still friends but I just don’t agree with that point of view). By contrast, growing up the people I knew were real big on “if you’re in the neighborhood drop on by.” An environment of openeness and comfort with sharing was created, and it didn’t mean the persons’ privacy was raped. If they (the people at home) were tied up in something that was occupying them, you quickly realized this, kept it short, and left–no hard feelings on their end for “just showing up unannounced,” no hard feelings on your end for not being catered to at the drop of a hat. If not, the host was glad to have you and made it clear that they were GLAD you just showed up. It was about buidling a community, which I think is the sort of thing Lenore is advocating.

But now, it’s all about “my boundaries” and “my right to not have intruders barging in without making an appointment with my receptionist first,” as if people wanting to be a beneficial part of your life is now some sort of forced obligation being forced down your throat, rather than something beneficial for you AS WELL as them. I am all for, to a certain extent anyway, respecting such boundaries, but I think it’s gotten a bit ridiculous anymore. Don’t take photos of MY kids, you’re just trying to please yourself and exploit my kids for your own selfish purposes. Don’t come visit me unless you’ve been asked, it’s rude to infringe on MY SPACE unless I’ve given you MY PERMISSION to do so. This seems to be a recent change in our society and I don’t like it nor do I agree with it at all.

That’s a different request to make than, say, asking people to not give your baby chocolate or soda without asking, or not overriding your parenting principles (rock to sleep vs crying it out, sleep in same room vs their own, boys having cute curls with long hair vs cutting it to make it short). Those are understandable requests for a parent to make in terms of not overriding how they’re trying to discipline their child’s behavior and diet etc. The other is all about tearing down and polluting what could be a wonderful community because wonderful gestures are now misinterpreted as “intrusions into my space and disrespecting my wishes.” Oh, puh-leaze.

I’m preaching now, and I never started participating in this site to do so, and I hope I’m not offending Lenore in doing so (if she tells me I am, then by all means I will respond accordingly). But some of what I’m reading here is really–frankly, nonsense.

LRH

PS (darn PS again)–I’m fixing to leave to go the lake. And you know what? Lately my 4 year old hates going to the lake. Guess what? Tough tamales, little girl–we’re going anyway. I’m the parent, you’re the child, I feel like going to the lake–so that’s the end of that discussion. I’m not your personal taxi or playmate to pander to everyone of YOUR wants. You don’t get a vote.

That doesn’t mean we don’t do things that she specifically likes, but it’s not tailor-made to what she likes either. We do listen to her wants etc, and will do things she likes as part of our lives–but if I feel like going to the lake and she says “I don’t want to go to the lake”–too bad, you don’t get a vote.

(All of that said, last Saturday we were all at the lake and she was enjoying it, and that’s fine.)

Other people we know, by contrast, when we try & discuss where to meet-up, they ALWAYS try and have everything changed because “my kids don’t like it.” Growing up, it was nothing like that–the adults decided based mostly on what THEY wanted where to go, and we kids just learned to fit in to that context of things. Yes some things were done for our specific enjoyment–Six Flags comes to mind–and I recall lake trips where they let us go to the pinball machines & helped make that happen for us, but in the OVERALL sense, it was adult-centered.

If my aunt wanted to take a photo of me, she didn’t have to ask my mother, she just did it–and if I was a brat about it and my mother got wind, she didn’t chastize my aunt for “exploiting MY KIDS!!!” Instead I was the one in trouble for not doing as I was told by my aunt. And yes, my aunt was not one to override my mother’s parenting principles in ways Dolly speaks of. In return, she could discipline and direct EQUAL to my mother in such instances–and if there was any disagreement, it was taken behind closed doors. NEVER did I get the idea that I could whine to my mother and weasel out of what my aunt was doing, because my mother understood this would cause me to be a brat to everyone, including herself.

So yes–if someone wants to take a photo of my kids and my kids act the brat for it, THEY will be the ones in trouble, not the adult.

End of sermon, off to the lake.

LRH

“Taking down the photo does not means that a cute naked photo of your kid at age 4 wont show up to mortify him/her as a 12 year old in Jr. High.”

What doesn’t mortify a 12 year old? The mere existance of parents mortify a 12 year old. My god, if we made our decisions about what might possibly mortify our children at 12, we’d have no children.

no control* I can type. Honest.

Donna: I have said it before, but I will say it again. I am fairly chill about pictures and most things with people I like and care about. My friends post pics of me and my kids on their facebooks all the time and link to it and there are no problems. I don’t mind because they are my friends and I know they love us. It is when someone has dislike for anyone of us that I start to restrict what they can and cannot do. Meaning my inlaws because I know they don’t like me and they have done nefarious things in the past not just to me, but to all of us. Like taking unflattering pics of me on purpose and then blowing them up. So motive does matter. I was just using inlaws as an example. I do have my facebook locked down, but when I know you and love you and the feelings are mutual, take all the pics you want and do with them as you please, because I know you will do so in a respectful way. Does that make sense?

In the end I do like to think I maintain control of my image and my children’s images as long as they are underage. I do have one or two pics of us on the main internet but I was the one to approve the pics and their usage.

Larry: Well I go by etiquette standards and it is not polite to drop by without calling or being invited first. I don’t care your intent. I follow it and I expect others to do so too. If you just want to drop by to drop something off that is fine to just show up, but without calling first I am not letting you into my house. Like I said before, I like my privacy.

When I am nursing two infants or pumping breastmilk and just starting to try to do it, the last thing I needed was people I don’t know that well or like, staring at my boobs or wanting to chit chat. Not to mention I was still bleeding from several orifices. Sorry, not going to happen. I needed my rest and privacy. If they want to see the baby they can visit once we all have recovered and got used to our routine and when I invite you over. Or you can wait till I send you pics. You wait 9 months for a baby to be born, waiting a week more, won’t kill you.

I very much support community. We just did a lemonade stand the other week to try to meet some of our neighbors. We are outside playing all the time and wave at every car that passes by and play with the neighborhood kids. I have lots of friends and family I invite over to visit regularly. The difference is that it is on my terms. It is when it is convenient for us I show others the same respect. I don’t think that makes anyone anti-community. It makes you polite.

That’s awful Kimberly. 🙁 Sorry that happened to you. That is the type of thing I try to prevent exactly.

Donna: No one refused to send anything. We were too busy you know, caring for the babies and he was also caring for me. We don’t have a fancy cell phone with internet and cameras. So only way we were sending photos was when Hubby had a chance to go home and send some. He did on like Day 3 but not the first two days. It was non stop baby care and nursing attempts. That is the attitude that bothers me right there. That an Aunt’s feelings are more important than establishing nursing or caring for the baby or resting or recovering. That is just selfish, sorry.

Thanks Jackie. I would be fine never seeing them again but hubby has a limited relationship with them.

LRH writes:

What you are describing reminds me of friends we had recently who thought it was rude for you to come over to their house without calling first.

It IS rude to just drop by unannounced. How do you know your friends don’t have other things to do? Or just don’t want company? Maybe they want to lie in bed and read all day, or work, or dance in their underwear to Madonna, or have sex uninterrupted. Why are you more important than they are in their own home? What makes you think that your desire to visit trumps their desire to be asked if it is convenient for them or not?

Yeah, no. I work from home, and people who just drop by without calling me first – whether it’s a regular work day or not – will find the doorbell unanswered. I am the Queen of my castle, not J. Unmannered Passerby.

Okay, LRH, that’s enough! Yes, Missy I owe you an apology for that last post, and I sure owe Lenore an apology, this isn’t the sort of thing I think she wants at her site–name-calling, mud-slinging & all of that. That was very juvenile, totally wrong–and I owe an apology to everyone here, especially you Missy and you Lenore. It was WRONG what I did, no excuse for it. Period.

Now that I’m calm, back to debating the issue in a more mature manner.

I nonetheless do stand by my original assertion–it is absolutely a very anti-community and anti-friendship attitude to say that people have to call you first before coming over. It isn’t about selfishness when a person happens to be in the neighborhood–it does happen by the way–it means they love you, they value you, they desire time with you, and they are offering themselves as friends to you. It used to be a common thing that people looked it at that way, now all of a sudden you have people like Missy and Dolly–and many others, let me not just pick on them (and no name-calling the rest of this post–again, my sincerest apologies, that was wrong) who think you’re invaiding their soveriegn domain to stop in & say hello.

That’s just a ridiculous attitude to have, I’m sorry, but it is just ridiculous.

Again, it has NOTHING to do with me asserting that, say, I have the RIGHT to “invade your palace” or whatever at my realm, such is not what I’m thinking at such times at all. And I know what you’re saying–I dance to my underwear to Hanson tunes (yes, Hanson) all the time, there are times I’m just tired and “vegging out” watching old “Sanford & Son” re-runs–by the way, even Fred Sanford, as much as he hated Aunt Esther, didn’t tell her she had to call before she came over, nor any of his friends either–and so maybe I don’t feel like company at the time either.

But if someone DID show up, I’m not going to be all hostile and tell them what a bunch of rude “who do you think you are that your life is more important than my solitude at my home” or whatever load of horsecrap (that’s not name-calling, is it?) they’re coming up with these days. I am going to have the perspective that these are people who LOVE me and desire fellowship with me, and that’s a GOOD thing.

Screw all that nonsense about “it’s my house how dare you invade it without making an appointment with my receptionist first.” To name-call a person–again, I am apologizing for the 3rd time because I should, that was wrong to say–HOWEVER, that whole attitude, it is pretentious and ridiculous, simple as that. I don’t respect that difference in opinion because–frankly–it’s just full of anti-community horse manure.

Calling it that I DO NOT apologize for (but the other, yes, for the 4th time, that was wrong–please forgive me Lenore especially, that was just wrong).

LRH

I appreciate your apology to Missy and Lenore. They definitely deserved one.

If you are comfortable with people just dropping by-great. Let people know that and maybe they will. Even if someone tells me I can drop by, I typically don’t. I just find it hard to do that since I worry about bothering someone and I was raised to always call first.

Just because you are okay with it though does not mean everyone else is nor are they wrong for feeling thusly. With some houses like mine you can tell if we are home and not answering. We have a window on our front door and you can see right into the house. So there is no pretending to not be there. But we rarely get unannounced visitors so its not a big deal.

There are some people like my mom or my best friends that can come by and I would probably be cool with it because I know they won’t judge a dirty house or whatever. They are the exception though and I really want them to call first too. That is just me. Does not make me hostile or rude.

Anyway, back to the original topic for Cass. I also don’t worry about naked pics being considered dirty or worry about pedophiles getting their hands on them. Because I don’t put them out there for everyone to see. Its that simple. If someone else wants to put those out there, more power to them. That is their choice. Just try not to humiliate your kid by putting something embarrassing out there that might embarass them later on or even now with their friends.

Another thing: My hubby works at home. My hubby also NEVER wears pants at home. EVER. So if you stop by unannounced be prepared to see his wang or butt. LOL! The few times people came by unannounced they got a good look at Hubby in his boxers running past the door to go get pants. You can see right into our hallway at eye level at his butt (split foyer). So yeah….probably best to give us a call.

Dolly PS–your husband’s wang or butt? Ha ha, I like that, seriously. And I will agree with you on that count–whether or not a person knows to call first or just shows up not knowing, they have NO RIGHT to complain that they saw what they saw.

I will agree with you on that count–your husband is at home, he has EVERY RIGHT to make himself as comfortable as he sees fit in whatever way he sees fit, and anyone who shows up–oh well, no right to complain. In like manner, if someone shows up & you’re in the middle of your meal, don’t expect that I’ve anticipated it and made enough for you. It would be NICE if “we have plenty, help yourself,” but the reality is that we probably won’t, and my family and myself are my priority for providing food for.

What I have found is this: even if I am in the middle of something that I don’t want to be interrupted with–I work out playing basketball almost daily for one thing–I have nonetheless found that I will be able to catch things up ultimately, the spontaneous visits don’t seriously muck all of that up. In the end, community is fostered and I still get my own needs taken care of, however serious or frivolous those “needs” are–laundry, basketball, and yes, dancing in my leather jacket, sunglasses & jammies to Hanson, ha ha.

LRH

Wow, LRH. Just wow. Yes, that apology was definitely owed. Thank you for that.

That does not, however, change the simple fact that you don’t get to set the rules for someone else’s household. Period. Not ever.

No one has the right to interrupt my 80 hour work week simply because they think it “fosters community”, or whatever nonsense one thinks one’s inconsiderate behavior is masquerading as. I have things called “deadlines”, set by the people who pay me good money to meet them. I’m sure they don’t care what you think about my rule that if you want to come by, you need to call first. The considerate visitor has no wish to be an imposition.

Thankfully, my friends and family were brought up with good manners and have the decency to call and ask if I’ve time for guests, rather than simply show up to impose, whether I have time for them or not.

I find it sad that people are so extremely paranoid today. To have the first thoughts in people’s heads when seeing pictures of a cute baby who happens to be naked be of pedophiles is just sad! Talk about an obsession that sucks the joy out of life!

As for the people who are so concerned about facebook, there are privacy settings that work just fine. My privacy settings are very strict. Only friends can view any part of my profile, and I am only “friends” with people I actually know.

Dolly, my MIL is a nut job, too. I’m constantly fighting the urge to restrict all kinds of things as “punishment” for one thing or another. She’s inconsiderate and always asking for pictures and I hardly ever send them to her, because like you’re saying, they’ll get plastered all over the internet whether I like it or not. I’ll print copies for her before I’ll email something.

And Donna, yes, people who are nice to me get more privileges than people who are rude and inconsiderate.

And LRH, you would quickly stop being my friend if you dropped by my hospital room unannounced. I feel like a hot pile of crap after having a baby and I want to sleep, not entertain everyone I’m acquainted with. I had a million visitors with the first baby, and that’s a mistake I won’t make again. I also want people to call before they come over. My husband works the graveyard shift for 13 hours a day, and is asleep in the other room the rest of the time. So my house is generally not open for visitors. I have a couple chairs on the porch, so if someone comes over and I’m not busy we can sit outside and chat. But droppers-by are not welcomed into my home with open arms and a “let me drop everything and interrupt my schedule for you, oh grand visitor!” attitude.
Also, LRH, your are opinionated and smug and I’m sick of you telling everyone that their opinions are wrong (but Lenore, let my lick your shoes real quick before I type some more insults). You sound like a tyrant of a parent and I can’t tell you how glad I am that you’re not my dad. My parents had rules that I followed, too, but they would never FORCE me to do something as ridiculous as get my picture taken. Because your kids are PEOPLE with FEELINGS, even if they’re only 5. So how about you ease up on the preaching (and holy crap, if you talk about being a photographer one more time, I might cut something) and keep your responses to 1 paragraph and about the post instead of responding to every single comment as if it’s directed at you.

“Thanks for accepting my apology. By the way, you’re a snob.”

Seriously, Larry, quit while you’re ahead. We’re all very clear on how you feel about drop-ins versus appointments.

Larry: The fact that you are a man kinda means a lot here. You have never given birth. You have no idea how exhausting or painful or emotionally charged or hormonal it is. So for you to judge a woman on how she feels after giving birth is kinda a ballsy move. You have never cried because you have been unsuccessfully trying to nurse your premature infant for hours and hours and it not work and your nipples hurt so hard you are gritting your teeth and muffling a scream into a pillow (and don’t say that was because I was nursing wrong because a lactation consultant came in and said I was doing it right, my babies were just bad suckers and my nipples were sensitive). I know what that feels like.

So excuse the heck out of me if I get annoyed when BIL and SIL whom I dislike and whom showed ZERO interest in me when I was pregnant, call my private hospital number to tell (not ask, tell) me they are coming to visit to see the babies. They are just lucky my hands were full of baby and I didn’t answer the phone or they would have heard some choice words. My mom answered and dealt with them for me.

Some women have an easier time with nursing and giving birth than others too so even if one woman is up to being friendly after giving birth, others might not be and that does not mean anything is wrong with them. It just means they had a horribly exhausting birth and recovery. Hell I still had a catherer in when BIL and SIL wanted to come visit. Umm no…..

Larry: Would you mind if someone you didn’t like wanted to come visit you after a hernia surgery when you were still pooping in a bag? Probably not. Well that is how I felt.

Sorry to get off topic again, I just don’t like a man telling women how to feel about labor and delivery because you know, YOU ARE A MAN!

I agree with Mollie. Sure it is not going to hurt a kid to pause for a sec and snap a pic. But to tell them to do whatever an adult tells them just because they are an adult. I don’t preach that. I follow the rule of respect going both ways as well as there needing to be a reason why you need to do what the adult tells you.

Dolly I don’t think my being a man is relevant here, nor that I’ve never given birth. Both genders have their own struggles, too numerous to list, and I don’t participate in “you’re a man or woman you don’t understand” etc.

Also, at the risk of being petty, I assume by BIL and SIL you mean brother-in-law and sister-in-law. Why not just type it out, sorry if I’m nit-picking, I just don’t care for Internet acronyms. I don’t even like using FRK for free-range kids. DVD or NASA are one thing, or FM radio (whoever expects me to type out “Frequency Modulation” sorry), CD or that sort of thing, but I’ve never cared for “AFAIK” and “BRB” and “IIRC” etc. Do forgive me for being petty, though, it’s not the real point here, but I couldn’t restrain myself from commenting. (Maybe I need to–as they say–pick your battles, stick to the topic etc?) It’s just a quick aside, and my apologies if I’m being too argumentative.

Getting back–I am sorry, really, for what you endured–again, I don’t think being a woman & having unique woman problems entitles one to be difficult–I’m not saying you ARE being difficult, I’m just saying having unique “woman problems” doesn’t make it any different. It also doesn’t mean that someone else can’t make appropriate comments about the matter in certain realms. For that matter, the same goes with male-specific problems as well. Me having issues with erectile dysfunction (no I don’t have that, regardless is the usage of that term in the realm of “too much information”–no, not “TMI,” but *too much information*) or hernias or “beer gut” or whatever male-specific problems there are, it doesn’t excuse any inappropriate behavior, it doesn’t make me special either, and most relevant again, it doesn’t mean that you can’t comment on my opinion or the way I handle things because “you don’t understand, you’re a woman” etc.

People like to play that card “unless you’ve been through so & so you don’t understand,” and that’s something else I don’t agree with. I don’t have to have been raped to know that rape is wrong, I don’t have to have a daughter who’s been raped to know that I’d probably want to shoot & kill whoever did it, and yet to also know that you will go to jail for murder. You can tell the police officer all day long “unless you’ve had a daughter who was raped you don’t understand how I feel,” but he’s going to arrest you for murder anyway. That your specific experience wasn’t shared by the person commenting on it doesn’t mean the commenter is out-of-line for commenting.

Hey, at least I’m not repeating my earlier mistake I had to apologize for.

Mollie You are correct in that Uncle Walt or Coach Bill is more of a threat than a stranger, but that said, I think we have mis-applied this whole “telling kids to obey all adults opens the door to molestation” mentality and I think that’s why you have brats now. If there is anything I have a problem with (okay, I guess it’s more than one thing, I’ve been on a roll today), it’s parents who think they and only they can correct their children. That’s just wrong. I have always said I don’t want other persons telling me how to parent my kids in terms of trying to override my free-range philosophies, but a person in a position of authority should nonetheless be able to correct an unruly child.

If, say, I work at a department store stocking shelves and your child comes in there raising cane and knocking stuff off the shelves, you darned right I better be able to tell the child to stop it. Like in the Arnold Schwarzenegger movie “Kindegarden Cop,” if a child is kicking the back of my airplane seat, I should be able to look the child in the eye with an intimidating look and warn the offender that you had better stop.

Trouble is, if you do that, rather than the parent doing the proper thing & holding their child accountable, they scold you “don’t you tell my child what to do.” Others say “tell me since I’m the parent, I’ll handle it”–yeah right, 9 times out of 10, from what I’ve seen and heard, do that, and the parent, rather than apologizing for their child’s misbehavior, now will excuse it and rationalize it.

The idea behind telling a child they must obey all adults is to avoid raising a child to be a brat. It’s also because a parent can’t be everywhere and needs a break, and when other adults help to reinforce the parent’s authority by being authority themselves, you have the “community of support” which, I think, is one of the things free-range is about. So my aunt could tell me “get off the couch, you know your momma doesn’t allow that” or whatever, and if I didn’t do so, I was in trouble the same as if I disobeyed my mother directly. That sort of “involvement” from family members is something I welcome & appreciate, unlike them trying to override my free-range philosophies.

Yes there are the unfortunate molestations when children are taken advantage of, but that can be reconciled–and besides that, for every one of those situations I’d hedge a bet you will have 10 million of the “brats out of control” situation if you teach them to only obey you the parent.

As for the “reason why” the adult told you to do that–you do it because they said so, because they’re an adult, they’re above you in authority, they aren’t to be questioned, and you do what they say. Period. (And yes, you can train them about exceptions–if Uncle Charlie tells you to stay still while he feels for ticks in your panties, DO NOT consent to that, run and yell and tell mommy, or whatever.)

LRH

Cera Me too, well, that is, the babysitter we were using was one we found on Craigslist, and she was a blessing. She was low-priced but her home was decent, she had him on a good schedule, loved on him well, and I personally LIKED it that she wasn’t “officially state-approved.” So she didn’t have to worry about the state telling her that she had to get rid of her drop-side crib or other such nonsense–everything was between her & us the parents, period, no government meddling, just as it should be.

LRH

Great responses to this post! I have many things to say!
To the point about worrying about privacy and children having an online identity:

1. I think it’s important to teach children about what an online identity is and keeping credit card and personal info safe in terms of preventing identity theft.

2. Worrying about putting a pic of their second birthday on FB is going to far. You’re telling me your kids are going to be emotionally scarrred from seeing that later in life….and feel like thier rights have been violated? Wow, there are children who have no food, and yours are scarred about not being asked about pictures.

3. If you tell your children to be upset when their picture is shown and act like it’s a travesty, they will learn that and freak out when their picture is taken or shown…so now we have adults running around who can’t deal with and feel violated with regards to being photographed in the company picnic. Always the victim!

4. Pedophiles. REALLY, whats to stop a phedophile from watching your kid and you go into the grocery store from the house across the street with his teloscopic zoom lens carmera and taking pictures of your kid as you come out……hmmmm NOTHING! The likelyhood of that happening…….hmmmmm….miniscule. Stop going to grocery store with kid……hmmmmm unneccessary over reaction. It’s the same with facebook.

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I wish my mom had taken more pictures of us when we were babies and kids. Now as an adult I have very few pictures to show my own kids and my mom doesn’t have a lot of pictures to look back on and share memories.

Of all of the pictures we do have there is one of me naked as a baby. I didn’t even know about that pic until my late teens as we didn’t have it in our possession. It was at my grandmother’s house in another country. My mom went for a visit and brought it back to show me. It’s not my fav. pic in the world and I wouldn’t use it as my profile pic, but hugely embarassed and scarred for life at seeing it???? NO.

Who knows who’s seen the picture over the years and who cares??? I vaguely connect with the baby in the picture because see I was a BABY and I don’t recollect the event. Also, I’m glad someone loved me and thought I was cute so they took a pic of me.

I put pictures of my two year old on facebook because I think she’s cute and want to share with family and friends who are far away. I just gave my mother in law and mom a whack of pictures. My MIL takes them to family funtions and shows them to every distant relative she can. My mom takes them to work and shows them to everyone…and I say more power to them.

If you teach kids to worry and be upset about a simple thing like having their picture taken they will grow up to be neurotic control freaks. This is not the gift of “respect” it’s taking away a persons right to feel safe and happy.

OP: Great reply! Other people mean well and have good intentions with their concerns, but sometimes they’re just silly.

As for the pages of responses that have followed, it’s been amusing to read!

IMHO—and I must say I do not yet have kids—that posting pictures on FB or any online site, sure, it comes with some ‘risks’ if you will, but like others have said, so does taking your child out in public, or letting them play on the playground, or, you know, driving a minivan (because really who drives those unless they have kids?). Might someone take the time to connect your baby’s picture to your address, and then learn your routine and take the kid? Sure. But, a serial killer can break into your house and murder the entire family in your sleep because you know, people sleep at night that opens yourself up to things like that to happen.

A friend of mine had this adorable picture of him at the beach, his back to the camera, with his little son between his legs, also facing away from the camera, butt-naked. It was adorable! But he took it down because he said he got too many “that’ inappropriate” comments.

Well, for those who don’t believe in the whole Garden Of Eden story, this wide-spread sense of shame over nakedness had to come from somewhere, right?

Perfect, thanks for posting

I would suggest the way you were raised has nothing to do with manners, and everything to do with being a snob. I am NOT name-calling

You most certainly ARE name calling. And insulting the solid work ethic my grandparents had and instilled in me. And assuming that you are better suited to determine what is good for me and mine than I am.

Frankly, LRH, you’re acting like a buffoon, and you’d do well to look to your attitude. You’ve got a NERVE.

My friends and family have no problem “pinning me down” to do things. They CALL, we make PLANS. Easy peasy, and much better than just expecting me to drop everything at their whim. Because they are considerate like that.

Oh, PS, Missy–I still think the whole “you have to call before you come over” thing, unless you’re the CEO of Exxon or a famous celebrity who has to have an unlisted number to keep from being hounded by everybody, is still highly pretentious and snotty. I call it as I see it, honey. It is what it is. (But again, the one person who mentioned, in a very casual way, about how they have to handle things that way because they’d otherwise be letting drunks & druggies into the premises–I can’t argue with that, I’d do whatever I have to in that case as well.)

Regardless, as I said in my prior post, the new CPS article makes it clear what the REAL purpose of this blog is for, and I’m trying to make a concerted effort to stick to that sort of thing and not focus on these other things as much, and to TRY and make my points without being a jerk about it, but if I’m failing, I guess I’m failing. Let the journey proceed thus.

LRH

No Missy, it’s more like–people who throw a fit over protocol because you stopped in to say “hi”–oh the horror!–and didn’t make an appointment with them first like they’re the First Lady or something are being very pretentious and snotty. I don’t care who raised who that it’s courteous, they were WRONG. It’s not the same as raising a child to be a hooker or that sort of thing, but it’s WRONG.

Mainly though, I’ve experienced the “other side”–people who DON’T throw a fit over it, and I find that much more civil and refreshing. I don’t visit people a lot anyway, but when I do, it’s nice to know that if I “pop in” I’m not scolded for failing to violate some protocol that probably exists in San Fran-wacko or somewhere like that.

But the new Child Protective Services (CPS) article makes it clear there are bigger fish to fry, and I’m as guilty as anyone else, I imagine, on getting off-topic from what actually matters. Can we move on to what matters? It was fine at first, MAYBE, but at this point, it’s starting to get a bit ridiculous on BOTH of our ends of things.

LRH

My daughters pics are on facebook, I don’t think I could actually get them all down if I wanted to because they are posted on multiple family members and friends pages and tracking every single picture down and demanding it’s removal would be more trouble than it’s worth. Plus I put her pictures up myself. I actually remember right after I gave birth to her, not five minutes after, people were texting me while I was being sewn up from a tear, saying they had seen her picture on facebook and she was beautiful. Apparently friends and family were taking pictures of her right away and putting them up on facebook from their phones. Gotta love technology!

LRH, I’m pretty sure you don’t ‘friend’ your coworkers personally because they can’t stand you.

You’re absolutely right that you don’t have to get raped to know that rape is bad. And you don’t have to give birth to know that labor is painful. But until you actually experience it for yourself, with all the pain and emotions and exhaustion and bleeding that comes with it, YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE. So don’t sit here being a snob and acting like you personally know every emotion a person could suffer through. Even our husbands are smart enough not to claim to know what we’re experiencing. You should take a lesson from them.

To say that we can’t play the ‘you’re not a woman’ card in the woman-problem area is a load. Until you grow a uterus and then have it ripped out of you, we will continue to claim that. If you’re so sure that there really isn’t a difference between the 2, then how about I kick you in the nutsack with my kung-fu force and then tell you that you need to suck it up and immediately run a marathon.

If friends care enough to come visit in the hospital, then they should care enough to make sure you’re up to it. My family CALLS first. I rarely tell them no, but it gives me a chance to gear up for them. I’m not a fan of having my dad walk in unannounced while the nurse is doing a pelvic exam of my bleeding cervix. They also understand that right after birth, sleep is a rare and precious commodity. The last thing they want to do is walk in and inturrupt the only sleep I’ve had for 2 days. So you know what? THEY CALL FIRST. Because that’s what people who love you do. They care more about your needs than their wants.

Now shut your pie hole.

Apparently, it does because this is the shortest response I’ve ever seen from you.

Agree with the writer… Not to worry a lot

Less worried father

Nothing wrong with posting a few snaps of your kid and posting them on Facebook. Even little naked ones. Just remember that you are playing to an audience of “friends” that probably aren’t really your friends. Don’t be a Facebook over-sharer. Think of Facebook like a cocktail party with acquaintances, friends and some family. When you post on FB – you are speaking to the entire “cocktail party”. You wouldn’t discuss certain things to just ANYONE in that room. I read the blogs STFU Parents, STFU Believers and STFU Conservatives (there are plenty others). These are people that truly over share every stupid thought in their head!

The parents are the worst – it’s 1 thing to post a pic of your newborn son and be proud! It’s another to post pictures of the birth, afterbirth and then the baby’s’ first poop in the diaper (yes – there are parents that do that).

Before posting a naked baby pic, or any pic for that matter pause and think. Look at your list of friends and ask yourself…would I show this picture to that person if we were at a dinner party?!?! If the answer is no then don’t post the picture or get rid of the “friend”

I put naked bottom pictures up on my blog, so that’s no big deal to me. Recently my sister took naked pics of my kids (3 and 1) and put them on her Facebook. Several of them were from the front.

I asked her to take the frontal ones down. A bit of it was because they were from the front (it does bother me a bit, but because it’s on my sister’s account, not mine, I don’t know all of her friends), but mostly because she didn’t ask. People, just ask the parents before showing off naked pics of their kids, it’s the polite thing to do!

Beth: I also strip my kids down naked sometimes out in public. That is not the issue. If I stripped them and then someone started taking pics of them while I was getting their dry clothes back on-then I would have an issue. Because why are you taking pics of my kids naked?

i completely understand this, i took a very stunning photo of my niece who is 16 yrs old she is my niece through marriage and her mother completely dispises me, has done everything to ruin my life, i had the daughters permission to post it on my photography site, and now i have her mother threatning me with the rcmp because apparently the theme of my site is inappropriate for her age and that the photographs are revealing … when she is wearing a dress and is sitting on a couch cradling her legs and resting her chin on her knee to make herself look sad and lonely as that was the emotion she wanted protraiyed she has stated i am solicitating her daughter, in which i am not as i am not a professional photographer and am only taking photos for fun to share with my family and friends as i build my talents in hopes to one day be a proffessional photographer. it is a shame how low some poeple will go to try and create drama and dramatics in poeples lifes,

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NO ADULT HAS THE RIGHT TO HUMILIATE THEIR CHILD BY TAKING PHOTOS OF THEIR NAKED BODIES. IT WASN’T RIGHT 100 YEARS AGO AND IT’S NOT RIGHT NOW. IT’S THEIR BODIES- NOT THE PARENTS, NOT THE GRANDPARENTS, ETC. They are going to hate you for it in the end. doesn’t matter if the perverts make something sexual out of anything. as the adult you are supposed to be looking out for them. Would you want them posting naked photos of you on the internet without your permission?? People for the love of God & everything that is holy stop this madness!!! Children have rights too!!!

Today, I’m here because I was doing a search after seeing some pictures of a friend on Facebook, she posted her 3 years old daughter topless. I’ve seen other posted their 3 years old daughter topless, but they look more like boys due to their short hair, but that friend, her daugther was all girly with long hair, so I saw differences, I was concerned.

Most of the molestation/rape cases were done by people who know the victims. But most of these molestors/rapists never really seen naked pictures of the victims, mostly because they were seeing others. With so many unconcerned parents posting their children’s naked pictures out there, making it so easy for others to distribute it around.

When you shared with your friends, your friends may share with their friends, the circle keep getting bigger/looser, & at the end, it ends up on these molestors/rapists who use it to fantasize, & finally may decide to target children. In the end, you may say that nothing happened with your sharing, but you can only say nothing happened to your children with your sharing only.

I do not know how these children will feel when they’re older & being told that their naked photos were shared on the internet for all their friends to see, & the pictures are still on there (which could’ve been distributed long time ago). If these children asked the parents to remove their naked photos, I wonder if these parents would still think if they did the right thing.

I took naked photos of my daugther, but I don’t share it with anyone, especially online. Only my spouse, myself & my daugther can see it. And when she’s older, we’ll let her decide if she wants to share it with anyone & with whom. It’s the same thing with my nieces who’ve children of her own, she only shared her own naked photos of a baby to her husband, she chose not to share it with others, but she has few which she is comfortable sharing with some close people. It’s her own naked photos of a baby, she gets to decide it.

Here, parents are saying that other parents are promoting scare, but what that leaves you & others? Your kids & others’ kids get to play at waterfall/beach in their swimsuit, run in the field with their Tshirt & pants, etc, they still have fun. Kids just want to play, they don’t care about having their parents & strangers watching them playing in naked.

On the other hand, other parents can also say that these parents aren’t actually parents but bad people disguising themselves as parents, that they purposely promote nakedness in children so that more parents would freely let them watch naked children.

Just showing 2 sides of a coin.

This entire post only defends the parent’s freedom. God forbid we remove an adult’s freedom to do as he or she wishes. Their ability to control that which is around them; god forbid they take the time to think out a logical sequence of thoughts to come to a deduced, logical conclusion.

And you are right … it is only in the eye of the beholder. A foot is porn to some but not to others. A foot can turn someone on but not others. Many people happily masturbate to a naked foot. For other people this is not a turn on. So why don’t YOU put a naked picture of your foot on the internet.
Same goes for the human body. For some, the naked human body is just art. They will not get excited about a nude body. Others will get aroused by a nude body. It is all in the eye of the beholder. So why don’t YOU post a naked picture of yourself onto the internet? For it is only in the eye of the beholder.

Of course one reason you don’t post naked pictures of yourself is because you would like to keep your job and may be illegal in some places. For many, that is the only reason for not posting entirely nude pictures of themselves on the internet … the only reason for them to not drive their car in the nude; take a walk around the block nude it to keep a job and not get arrested.
For others though, it is disturbing to think of some grubby old man or woman getting excited while looking at a picture of his or her completely exposed and nude body.
So in this respect, you can group people into those who don’t mind their bodies looked upon regardless of the implications and those that do not like to be exposed.
So, porn is not just in the eye of the beholder, but also how it affects the subject being looked upon.

So in conclusion, parents posting nude pictures of their babies are, in effect, speaking for not only themselves, but also for their child … since their child cannot speak … since their child does not have the Freedom of expression yet. They are stating, for their child, that the child automatically fits into the former group of human beings; those who do not mind their body being looked upon, regardless of the context. The parents posting naked pictures of their children are stating that the parent as well as the child accept the fact that there are men and women who will masturbate over nude baby pictures; men and women who daydream about sticking their fingers up into the child’s nice wet vagina, or who daydream about massaging your child’s penis as they stare longingly at your child’s naked picture. And if the parent is fine by that then it is no skin off my back. I don’t have kids (and sure don’t plan to). But acting like it is infringement of ‘Freedom’ to have someone merely suggest that you might not want to post pictures of your nude child is a bit foolish and hypocritical. I don’t care how long you carried the child; the child’s body is not yours. So if you wish to take the argument to ‘freedom’, the parent would actually be infringing on the child’s rights because it is the same as posting nude pictures of someone who cannot yet speak for themselves. So if it is okay to post nude pictures of someone because you are their ‘caretaker’ and because they can’t speak for themselves and because, surely if they could talk … they wouldn’t mind, then I suppose it would be perfectly okay to take pictures of human beings who are mentally handicap. What? Do you find that gross? I guess it is all in the eye of the beholder.

Again, if people want to post naked pictures of their babies, that is fine. It is not illegal; you won’t get fired from work for it. But the arguments for allowing posting of cute naked baby pictures are completely illogical. I believe the true reason for the illogical arguments come from the fact that a logical argument takes too much time and most do not want to put too much thought into every action … don’t want to have to analyze the possible consequences and outcome … so chalk everything up to … an infringement of freedom … when it is merely just an infringement on your ability to be a lazy non-thinking bum. Those people will more than likely be even too lazy to take the time to read this because, ‘there are too many words. It infringes on the freedom of my eyes’.

So it is completely okay to post naked pictures of your child on the internet. It is completely okay to post pictures of a naked foot on the internet. And if you work for a company that doesn’t do through background checks there are no problems with posting nude pictures of yourself on the internet. And if you post … the odd people will come; the ones who daydream about having sex with you after seeing a nude picture of you; the ones who daydream about having sex with your foot after seeing your bare foot; the ones who daydream about having sex with your child; being able to touch your child in every unimaginable way possible after seeing your cute child naked. And if you are fine with this; then it is absolutely, positively … no skin off my back.