Safety Tip? “Children Under Five Don’t Ride Bikes”

I purposely bought my son a small bike with training wheels rather than a tricycle. It looked a lot more fun and I thought he would transition better. Plus he likes to be a “big boy” He just turned 3 but I bought his bike when he was 2. What I hate more than the tricycle itself… most come with handles for the parent to hold while the child “rides”… isn’t the idea for the child to do the work, not me?

Ya. Sure. And my son NEVER played with any small parts when he was “3 and under”.

Both of my kids would have been in danger by riding a tricycle at the age of five, because their knees would have been black and blue from hitting the handlebars.

It’s not bad enough that they want to keep them in rear-facing car seats until they’re three and booster seats until they’re in high school? Now they have to ride three-wheelers until they’re five? Sheesh…

With every passing day, I hate the nanny state more.

@Danielle–We did that too! In fact, we used to “crash” into each other when we were 9-11.

@Bob–Car seats? When we were kids, we all were lined up in the back seat of the Volvo wagon….no seat belts…..

When I was young, I learned how to ride a bicycle on…a bicycle……no training wheels! I fell a few times, but like they say, once you learn how, you never forget.

Crazy! I remember a set of twins I used to babysit; the boy twin taught himself to ride his bike at 3 years old, no training wheels (or helmets, back then…)

It’s ridiculous to say that kids under 5 should NEVER have a bicycle, but to be fair, kids under 5 riding bikes IS a more modern trend. Back in the 50’s and 60’s kids rode tricyles at that age. I remember being 5 and riding my tricycle all over the street visiting with neighbors and playing with my friends. Have you ever seen the old 50’s show show, “Dennis the Menace”? He was 6 years old and ridng his tricycle all over the neighborhood, as well. Now I don’t even think you can find a tricycle to fit a 6 year old. They are all so teeny tiny. I find it kind of sad. What’s the rush? Wheels are wheels and as long as they get you around, who cares if there’s 2, 3, or 4? It wasn’t until recent years parents felt the need to train their kids to ride bicycles at 3 years old. It was unheard of in my days. Back then parents didn’t worry so much about teaching their kids to do things at younger and younger ages. They just let the develop at a more natural pace and didn’t try to “train” everyone early. Oh, well. Hope I didn’t offend anyone who have toddlers on two wheelers. Just my observation and opinion. 😉

@Sam “What’s the rush?”

Bragging rights for the paents. LOL Seriously though, I totally agree. My dad has an old black and white picture from 1957 of when he was 6 with his best friend who was also 6. They are both on tricycles, covered with dirt as they had been out playing in the neighborhood all morning, and grinning from ear to ear. It’s a darling picture. But you are right that kids today are trained to do everything earlier, except be able to play in their neighborhoods. Don’t even get me started on all the early academics and speech therapies. Why do SO many kids need speech therapy? It didn’t exist 50 years and yet virtually everybody learned to talk. Oh, well. That’s another topic for another day, LOL.

ps we plan on using training wheels and helmets. No elbow pads or knee pads.

When I worked at a daycare we would have bike day during the summer when kids, aged 3-5, could bring in their bikes and ride them, most of the kids were on big bikes with training wheels and a few of the 4-5 year olds were without training wheels.
My almost 2 year old has a balance bike and has been on it almost 6 months now, and we ride it round the block and get loads of compliments.

@BMS—-Next brilliant idea….when the ice-ream truck comes by, grab on to the hinges on the back door and wait for the truck to take off! 😉

Or…jump your bike off of a bridge without first figuring out how you are going to “swim” yourself and your bike back to shore!

Ahhh..the days of my youth…………………..

@Sam
Here’s a site I found when I googled kids on tricycles in the 50’s.

http://www.tricyclefetish.com/tricycle_photos3.php

There a lot of old photos of kids on trikes and there are quite a few who look near 8 year old. I agree, though. What’s the rush? Why not ride tricycles until you are able to ride a bike? Parents buy bikes today for their 2 and 3 year olds and then they use training wheels for 3 years. What’s wrong with trikes? I think they are cute and all my kids have used them and loved them. And when they were ready they went strait to riding a bike. Dad took them out to the park and taught them in a day. No training wheels. (In my mind training wheels are like pull ups for potty training. Just wait until they are ready and go for it.) It’s the way kids have been learning to ride bikes for generations. (Except this last generation, of course.) sigh…..

Again, Europe must be laughing at us. We had a neighbor with a much younger child than ours. She was from Europe (a Scandinavian country, I believe) and her son had been on a balance bike since he was walking. He was a pro on a bicycle by the time we met them. My son (who had had a tricycle) was at this point struggling to learn to ride the 2-wheeler. I wished I had started him younger – and he was not even 4 at this point. The other kid was maybe 2.5 or 3.

Off topic slightly-@Bob-until high school for a booster seat? The rate it’s going, I’d probably still have to be in one (I’m 5 feet even on a good day)! The really sad part? I’m the only licensed driver in my household…

I have to call shenanigans. Tricycles are far more “tippy” than bicycles, otherwise three wheel ATVs wouldn’t be outlawed while quads and motorcycles are still OK. Kids ride bikes when they’re good and ready and when they master it they’re much more stable than when they’re on tricycles.

What a load of bad advice! Way to go nanny state.

here in UK we had tricycles over the age of five in the 1950s and I don’t ever remember seeing two wheelers for little children. My children didn’t have 3 wheelers both had trainer wheels on their two wheelers. My son who has a disability manged to learn how to ride his chopper bike

Oh well, I guess I had better return the bikes I bought my kids when my eldest was just shy of 3. Took the training wheels off the following summer. Now one of my 4yos rides quite well and the other one is on her way. No training wheels, no helmets, no kneepads . . . .

I gave away their trikes a while back, because they were using them as a crutch. They also looked ridiculous on them (they’d been riding the trikes since age 1.5) and I wasn’t about to buy bigger trikes. Ha!

The reason to teach bike riding when the kids are younger is that they don’t have as much fear. On their little bikes, they don’t have far to fall, and so they really don’t get hurt. I was also 4 when I learned, as was my sister and a lot of other kids from my neighborhood. Some were 3, and I even know one kid who was 2.5 when he started riding.

My eldest – the one who rides quite well, and will be 5 in October – is way behind her sister in reading. She is just starting to be able to blend the letters into words, and recognize a few sight words. She gained a lot of confidence from riding her bike, and I used it to encourage her in reading. I say: learning to read is like learning to ride your bike. It seemes really hard and almost impossible at first, but with lots of practice, it became possible and even easy.

But yeah, bike-riding is terrible for a four-year-old. More bad mommy points for me.

When I was a kid, my parents had bought a 16″ bike for my eldest brother, probably because he was a midget, LOL. I inherited that bike when I was 4, sans training wheels. My siblings and the neighbor kids helped me figure out how to ride it. That was in 1971.

My niece was 8 or 9 when she learned. Because she hadn’t had the opportunity to learn on a little bike, she was afraid of falling from her 20″ (which had been fitted with training wheels).

Lissa, I’m so sorry. I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings or make you feel defensive in any way. When I wrote about bragging rights I was only making a joke. I thought that was implied from the “LOL Seriously though…” after that statement. Sorry for the confusion. 🙂 As for the rest of my comment I was talking in general about how kids are doing certain things earlier and earlier nowadays. I don’t believe it is because kids today are naturally smarter or more talented then they were 50 years ago. I do believe that there is some pushing going on, even when it is viewed as being in the best interest of the child. You have to admit that parents are more competitive and anxiously compare their children to others of the same age to see how they are doing developmentally. And kids are pushed to do things developmentally earlier and earlier by these parents who want only the best for their children. (Which is why Kindergarten is what 1st grade used to be.) There are definitely kids who are ready for things earlier, but it does seem to be the trend to do things earlier and earlier. (Except playing freely in the neighborhood, which trend leans towards the opposite spectrum of holding them back.) I agree with you though that parental instinct is most important.

Oh, and I agree about the accident-proneness of trikes. My kid scraped her face up quite nicely by tipping off her trike at 1.5. (Bring on the bad mommy points!) Of course, she only did that once!

I know a six-year-old girl who for the past two years has been the stoker on her dad’s tandem. She’s done 60-mile rides with her dad — granted, dad was pulling most of the load, but she did her fair share and was eager to do so.

I think she logged about a thousand miles last year and a similar amount this year.

Phoenix, that reminds me of my kid sister. She joined a bike-a-thon at age 5. She rode 10 miles on her 16″ before deciding she was ready to go do something else (it was the same 2 miles over and over). She also used to ride her brother’s 24″ 5-speed bike, beginning shortly after her 5th birthday. She was quite petite, so it was a funny sight. To my knowledge, she never took a spill until she was much older.

Kids are capable!

My son has been riding without training wheels since age 4 (he doesn’t take after me!) I feel bad for him though, he doesn’t have the freedom at 8 that his father and I had on our bikes. Not because we don’t want him to, but because we don’t trust people not to call the police if they see a child under 12 on his own in our neighborhood. (already had a run in)

I’ve done bikes and trikes with my kids. My older kids were pretty reluctant to give up the trike, and my youngest is having a blast figuring it out. I just can’t imagine telling a kid who wants to ride a bike and seems physically ready that he or she is too little.

@SKL
What is ‘redshirting’?

I think ‘the actor who will be offed first on Star Trek”.

Rich Wilson, “redshirting” is a term folks use for when parents start their normal kids in KG a year late, to give them an “advantage” by making them the oldest in the class.

No offense to people who decide that their kids are truly not ready for KG. But many parents simply don’t want their kid to be the youngest. Some people do it so their kids will kick butt on the football team years later, for example. They can’t imagine that it might actually be good for the child to experience some challenge in school.

I was the youngest in my class, so I think I have the right to an opinion on this. (Bet you can’t guess what my opinion is!)

Then I guess this is out, too:

AMAZING 6yr old skateboarding like an adult:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5i8JDTA1Hno&feature=youtube_gdata_player

And an impressive 4yr old!:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvsAA_7Jk8s&feature=youtube_gdata_player

There are more, even some that are pro by 9yrs old. THESE kids will be enjoying life, making good money, and basically running shit while the bubble wrap kids mope indoors. Not everyone has talent, but you never know until you try!

My Brother-in-law owns a bike shop. We asked him if he could recommend a good trike for our 2-year-old and he said, “Nah, you don’t want a tricycle! You want a BALANCE BIKE!” He said that balance bikes are better for little ones because they teach balancing early, and it is much more difficult to learn how to balance than to pedal. Our son is a little too short to sit on the bike properly, but all his friends in the neighborhood (ages 3-4) adore the bike and they love taking turns to ride it. Because the other kids have been practicing on my son’s bike, they are now almost ready for real bikes of their own – without training wheels. A trike is fun, but it does not adequately prepare a child to ride an actual bike.

SKL

“The reason to teach bike riding when the kids are younger is that they don’t have as much fear. On their little bikes, they don’t have far to fall, and so they really don’t get hurt.”

Certainly you are not suggesting that we need to train our children to ride bikes at a younger age because they might be too scared or they might get hurt if you wait until they are older? Kids are VERY resilient and there is absolutely NO real pro or con either way as long as the kid is on board to want to learn. I think most people that were saying, “Why the rush?” were just reminding us that it wasn’t too long ago that kids older than 2 rode trikes everywhere and survived even though they may have tipped over, LOL. Also, have any of you read the balance bike website? I’m sure it’s a fun product, (not necessary whatsoever unless you are trying to get your child to ride earlier – and for what reason?), but fun. But I have to say I’m not a big fan of their advertisement:

“It’s easy to move and control, increasing confidence and reducing fatigue as your child learns to ride. The Go Glider lets kids explore their ability to balance in a way that’s safer than a bike with training wheels because they always feel in control and never have to worry that the bike will wobble or flip. Your basic pedal bike sits too high off the ground, weighs too much and complicates the learning process. For many kids, that means learning to ride a bike is more about fear than fun and that’s no good.”

It just seems to me more about how you NEED this product because learning to ride a bike is so complicated and hard and this keep your child from getting FATIGUED and enable them to not have to get so many scrapes. sigh……. Of course for the parents who for whatever reason feel it necessary for their 3 year old to learn to ride a 2 wheeler, go for it. I’m sure it will get them on that 2 wheeler sooner.

As for balance bikes, I think they are fine and dandy, but I chose not to buy them. I felt their usefulness would be very short-lived – and they are too expensive if that is the case. If I’d heard of them before I bought the trikes, I might have skipped the trikes in favor of balance bikes. Maybe.

“Which is why Kindergarten is what 1st grade used to be.”

“Well, not really. For a while, 1st grade was what Kindergarten used to be. Now the pendulum is swinging back — except for the “redshirting” that is going on.”

You might want to check your research on that. Here’s a short excerpt from a site that tells the history of Kindergarten:

“The first kindergarten was founded by a man named Friedrich Froebel. Friedrich Froebel was known as the “Father of Kindergarten” because he developed the first kindergarten in Germany in 1837 (Colliers). His kindergarten developed theories and practices that are still being used today in kindergarten classrooms. His ideas were that children need to have play time in order to learn. Kindergarten should be a place for children to grow and learn from their social interaction with other children.”

There’s much more research online about how Kindergarten originated, but basically it was started as a place for young children (some as old as 7, depending on the country) to attend because they were not ready for “formal” schooling. it was a place to learn through play and develop social skills with other children. This is vastly different from what we see in today’s classrooms. sure there is still play but there is a lot of formal learning going on, including teaching them to read, which up until recent years has always been a first grade skill. there’s actually a facsinating study done on children from finland who outscore our country by quite a bit on internation tests. Here’s a few quotes from the article:

“Children here start school late on the theory that they will learn to love learning through play. Preschool for 6-year-olds is optional, although most attend.”

“At first, the 7-year-olds lag behind their peers in other countries in reading, but they catch up almost immediately and then excel. Experts cite several reasons: reading to children, telling folk tales and going to the library are activities cherished in Finland. Lastly, children grow up watching television shows and movies (many in English) with subtitles. So they read while they watch TV.”

It also stresses how teachers are HIGHLY valued in their country and must have masters degrees and there is much more free time for the kids in school and time for lots of outdoor play. Here’s the link for anyone interested:

http://www.nytimes.com/2004/04/09/world/suutarila-journal-educators-flocking-to-finland-land-of-literate-children.html

One last video, to show you what kids, un- bubbled wrapped- can do:

A 3yr old on a BMX bike, racing!:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMxq1LCXkr0&feature=youtube_gdata_player

I hope you enjoyed these as much as I did. Anytime you think the helicopters are taking over, just check out you tube for confirmation that you aren’t alone in allowing your kids freedom.

Here in the Netherlands, we start them young:

http://www.bakfiets-en-meer.nl/2011/04/28/creating-cyclists-start-em-young/

My kids have never had a tricycle, they have always had bikes. They are now 8 to 16, but my mom works for a large toy store and bought their first bikes for them around age 2 and we have upgraded as needed. They have also had skateboards since age 3 (we are very active, both my husband and I ride skateboards). My 9 year old daughter has gotten really good on the skateboard, although her siblings are less inclined. We also have forgone the training wheels past age 4 and instead use a training bar to teach riding without any help. The parent grabs the bar until the child is balanced and moving and then we let them go. We have had a few spills, but not anymore than anything else kids do. We use helmets, but that’s it for safety gear except on the skateboards, which our county requires knee and elbow pads.
I think this is a parents choice as far as what outdoor equipment a child has. It is much more important that they are able to ride and learn than what they are learning on:)

There’s a neighbor effect at work here. My 4 y/o ride a bicycle because she saw the 4 y/o across the street riding one. And now they like riding together. When they’re older, they can even ride to the park together and play, if you can imagine such a thing.

My daughter is 2 1/2, and she has a trike. She doesn’t like to push the pedals, though, so the only time she rides it is when one of the adults can let her take her trike onto the road in front of my sister’s house and coast down the hill to my mom’s house, about 100 feet away. She’s fallen more times on the trike than I can count, since 3 wheels aren’t very stable and she’s not good at steering. She also has a 2-wheeled scooter she rides around the house, yard, etc. Her balance on it is excellent, so a bike may be in the near future like Christmas or Easter.

I don’t remember when I learned to ride a two-wheeler without training wheels, but I do remember being 4, climbing on my neighbor’s 10-speed and riding about 200 feet down the hill on the same road my daughter rides her trike on (NO sidewalks in the area!). I was doing fine until I had to stop, at which point I forgot what my friend had told me and pulled the front brake but not the back, which vaulted me over the handlebars and resulted in my 3rd concussion in 3 years… I was a clumsy kid who did stupid stuff, what can I say?

While I did have training wheels on my first bike, my dad put them on so that the training wheels only touched the ground if I was tipping over. As long as I was upright and moving, the extra wheels never touched. It taught balance while giving me a safety net that kept me from falling TOO many times, although spills still happened, since I took forever to learn that fastest is not best.

All three of my children ride bikes with no training wheels and they have for a year now. They are 6, 5 and 3. They also ride their bikes to and from school every day–one mile each way.

I remember my first social studies lesson in 1st grade. There was a spread in the SS book with a picture of a boy dressed in too-small clothes and surrounded by all kinds of stuff little kids like, including a tricycle and a wading pool. The point of the lesson was that now we’re 1st graders, we have left all those “baby” things behind and moved onto things appropriate for kids – bicycles, etc. I was 5 at the time, and that sounded right to me.

PS, Sarah, I know KG was invented in Germany by a person who wanted kids to have a gentle transition from home to school. Keep in mind that (a) that was a different country and different time; (b) the school they were transitioning to was a lot less gentle and more rigorous than our typical 1st grades; and (c) kindergarten in those days involved stuff we wouldn’t dream of seeing in a public elementary school now, such as using actual hammers and nails to build doll cribs. In the US, kindergartens and preschools varied as to how much academics they involved. Many, many kids were learning how to read and write by age 4. Maria Montessori worked with slum kids in Italy, and determined that the natural age of reading readiness is 4.5. Even in countries where the formal public school doesn’t introduce reading before age 7, parents and preschools generally do. Besides, I went to kindergarten in 1971 and I had to learn to read in order to graduate to 1st grade. My grandmother, who came from a non-English-speaking country at age 4 (around 1900), flunked KG because she could not decode words well enough.

I just want to say that those long handles for parents are wonderful when your 1 year old is too small to reach the pedals (our trike was a gift), and was great for getting out for walks. Now I am using it to help her get started (that initial push off is tough) and get the concept of peddling, so much easier on my back. The handle will detach before next summer and shes on her own. But those handles do a great deal of help to her pregnant mother. Oh they are abused, but they do serve a purpose.

Is the fact that kids are on bikes younger now due to the fact that manufactures are not making bigger trikes and are only making smaller bikes? I had one of those large trikes when I was a kid. I went and bought my own bike when I was 7 with birthday money, but it was actually too big, but was the smallest bike they had other than banana seat, which my parents thought was dangerous. (Maybe due to my brother and his “smart ideas” inspired by Evil Kenivil.

My boys got bikes young, and the youngest was ready (and safe) to ride without training wheels at his second birthday. But his brother, (with some muscle delay issues) was just learning to ride without trainers at 5. I kept the youngest in trainers just so big brother could have his days of glory. And why were they in bikes so early? Because I couldn’t find anything other than crappy plastic big wheels in the trike department.

I do not count 2 wheelers without pedals nor bike with training wheels as a bike. For me, if you took off the training wheels at around 5 years age, you followed the advice. I would count 4.5 as around 5.

Anyway, this outrage got me thinking. Maybe the problem is not in most of the parenting advice itself. Maybe it is our approach to it. We as a society/generation assume that we have to follow it fully and to the letter. Where did such ‘fully and to the letter’ treatment of a random advice came from?

Why do we take this so much seriously? That seriousness makes people unnecessary angry. Maybe that is partly where helicopter parents come from. They assume that they have to follow whatever random rules comes around.

It should be seen as a general advice: the average kid living average lifestyle is ready to bike on a pedaled bicycle without training wheels around age of 5. If the bike is huge part of your lifestyle or the kid has above average balance, you should adjust the advice.

People wonder when to start with a real bike. If you put it low so no one fret over “we did it sooner”, it is going to be too soon for average kid. If you put it high so no one fret over “we did it later and missed nothing”, it is going to be too high for average kid.

Just like recommended age on books. The average kid will not like the book meant for older kids. If you kiddo likes it, you buy it anyway and no one cares.

I was doing a bit of googling tonight just for fun (because I am supposed to be working all night). I noticed that there is quite a range of “information” out there, depending on where you read. Some sites go on about how important it is to have 3 wheels / training wheels because kids so need the “stability.” Other sites warn of the dangers of using trikes or training wheels past the age when the child can go fairly quickly or wants to turn quickly, as the additional so-called “stability” causes accidents when the child tries to turn while going fast.

Many sites list age 4-5 as the typical age for being able to start riding a bike without training wheels. But most acknowledge there are individuals who learn sooner or later than that.

And I forgot to mention, some of the sites note that training wheels which are even with the rear tire create risks by making the tire and brake fail to function properly.

Kenny, that would be fun. You bring to mind a woman who puts herself out as an expert on car seat safety (on a popular mom site), yet she makes the most ridiculous claims that anyone with any real knowledge or brains would at least question such nonsense. (And when you question her, her followers say, “who are you to question this expert?”) She also pushes attachment parenting, and makes up stuff about babies dying because their parents swaddle, etc. Obviously some safety “experts” are just pushing their own personal agenda and happy to be paid for it. Maybe they should be sued when their safety recommendations lead to unwise decisions.

When I was two or three, I decided I would experiment and see if strawberry shampoo tasted like strawberries. I learned that it didn’t taste good going down…. or coming back up. Lesson learned. I’m just wondering why shampoo hasn’t been banned yet 😉

Why do people even report about what kids can and can’t do. Each parent knows their child’s limitations and opportunities. My grandson never uses a tricycle and road a bike early. He is no 7 and climbs on everything. He is a gymnast by nature. He knows what he can handle and I just need to be there when he feels unsure of himself.

When we tell children or adults what they can’t do we stifle their creativity. We do so many things that were once thought impossible because someone didn’t believe the lie that it couldn’t be done.

Just because some children can’t ride a bike before 3 doesn’t mean it can’t be done and no one should.

Look at the size of the trikes compared to the adult men: http://www.tricyclefetish.com/images/research/b6_1_b.jpg

I remember tricycles being large enough that a 5 or 6-year old child could ride them.

“She also pushes attachment parenting.”

SKL, I don’t think the way you said this is fair. You made it seem like attachment parenting is a bad thing. I practice AP and I am a free range parent. If you do a little research on AP (I recommend Dr. Sears books for a great start), you’ll find that it isn’t about locking your kids up and not allowing them freedoms, but rather a relationship you develop with your kids. In fact people who practice AP as it should be practiced I think have a better shot of being free range friendly because they know their kids so well and what they are capable of. It’s about developing a close bond with your baby/child. For example, when my kids were babies, I used a baby wrap to be able to carry them around so they could be with me interacting and viewing the world and interacting with others. (And no it wasn’t constant and they had lots of time to crawl around and explore on their own.) We coslept the first couple of years, responded to their needs when they cried rather than leaving them to cry it out, and basically spent a lot of time with them. Now that they are older we still spend a great deal of time together as a family. We go on family outings, eat meals together, have fun family nights at home, homeschool, and truly enjoy each others company. There is a mutual trust built between my kids and myself. Now for free range parenting, my kids go out and play in the neighborhood on a daily basis. They are friends with old and young. They ride their bikes to the park and to the library all the time. They not only play frequently with the other neighborhood children, but they are comfortable with people of all ages and are known in our neighborhood as very friendly, helpful kids who frequently volunteer to help out their neighbors if there is a need. (Right now they are 15, 13, 10, 8, 6, and 3). The 3 year old doesn’t roam the neighborhood unless one of the older two has taken charge of her to walk her to the park or something but the rest come and go and are quite free range. But we also spend lots of time with them and we are very close as a family. I don’t view this as a bad thing or as the opposite of free range. I don’t think you meant anything by your comment. You probably just didn’t understand AP, but I did feel I should clarify that you can do both! 🙂

The problem is there are too many “know-it-all experts” with holier than though attitudes, who don’t spout off all these “advice” without a lick of common sense, logic, and thinking about the development of the child. Their mentality is, “I feel uncomfortable with —-, because I’m fearful. Children should be protected at all costs. Even if it is to sacrifice their mental and emotional development at a critical time in their lives.” Idiots. Who’s to say who’s ready at a certain point? A person is ready when they have the knowledge, the training and the experience. But even then, none of us are always 100% ready. Children or adults. Sure some kids have a harder time in learning, while others excel very quickly. But no one will ever know until they actually teach their kids, and let them experience things. My nephew rode himself around in his mini-Big Wheel till he was 3. Then we got one of those 2 wheeled bikes with no pedals. Within 3 months he was riding down hills by himself (very little for us, might as well be a ski hill for him). Yes, he had a couple of spills. One he bruised his thigh. The other he scraped his chin. He didn’t cry on both occasions. We ask if he’s ok, and he just looks up at us with the look of “dang that was embarrassing, I’ll make sure not to that again.” Then he walked his bike back up and started all over again. He’s 5 now, and is asking for a real bicycle like the rest of us have. Christmas is right around the corner. 😉

IMO, and how I raise my own, I think about what I did as a kid (all of it), teach them how to avoid the pitfalls I went through by trial and error experience, so that it doesn’t happen to them, or at least minimize it happening to them. As well as all the good times I had. I want them to experience ALL the positive things I experienced growing up. Why would I deny my kids what I was freely able to enjoy doing at their age. Sure we all fear for our kids, we worry about them more times than not. It’s a natural thing to feel. What isn’t natural is how many parents let this fear over power them, and their sense of logic and common sense. That they end up doing the dumbest things all for the “sake of the children”. Yeah, riiiiight. Does that help you sleep at night? I thought so. So it’s not about the kids, its about them.

“Because they are not ready to ride bicycles, children under the age of five ride tricycles.” HA! Maybe the “experts'” kids are too slow to learn, and they don’t want to feel like having the only “slow” child in class, so they have to get others to follow a guideline that their own children can follow. Well, you can walk, my kids will just run by yours. See you at the finish line…whenever you decide it’s safe to get there. LOL!

What I found offensive about the “safety advice” was really what came before the sentence Lenore posted. Basically they are saying that even though kids under 5 may want to ride a bike, parents must tell them to wait, because they are not developmentally ready. Period. If they’d said “parents must first confirm they are developmentally ready,” vs. “wait until age 5,” that would have been fine.

It’s funny, because when you go into the main page on the age group 1-4, the photo for “play” safety shows a kid getting ready to ride a training-wheel bike. Not a trike. Maybe it was just poor word choice – but the word is powerful. Some people do get easily led if they think an “expert” advises something.

Thanks, Lisa and Lenore, for this story. There is something incredibly thrilling and symbolic about watching one’s child ride a 2-wheeler for the first time: the leap of faith, because the bike will ONLY stand up if it’s moving; the amazing discovery: “I did this on my own!”; the sense of freedom and liberation. It’s the first experience a person has of controlling movement on another vehicle using gravity and his/her own sense of balance and momentum. Sorry, but trikes and training wheels just don’t come close. It would be a shame to quash this spirit of daring and adventure.

Ok, it’s a stupid statement. The rest of the safety advice in the article is pretty reasonable given we are talking about 1-4 year olds: get a bike the right size? wear a helmet? supervise? Yes, please.

My little guy, just 3, has both a trike (it adjusts, he can ride it until he’s 5 or 6, I think, thanks Germany for still making them) and a run bike. He vastly prefers his trike; and we live in a hilly area where I am very glad it has a (detachable) handle, or he would be shooting out into traffic at every intersection. Also I can push him back and don’t have to carry the darn thing. When we get to using the run bike (also adjustable) it will be less awkward for me. But I’m in no rush. Childhood is not a race.

But, Andy, I think know why we take this stuff so seriously. Things that are published like this, from what looks like a reputable organization (whether it is or not) DO get treated like gospel by those of us unable to think critically — or who don’t know we’re supposed to. Now we can have a whole other discussion about the reasons for that…

@FrancesfromCanada …DO get treated like gospel by those of us unable to think critically — or who don’t know we’re supposed to. Now we can have a whole other discussion about the reasons for that…

Actually, I would like to know why is that so. I have some theories, but nothing that I would be able to explain easily. I would like to know what other people think. I’m starting to think, that this is the root of a lot of problems we have.

My brother was not yet 3 when he dug a dirt circle around our house from riding his two-wheeler around and around and around and… while our mom was inside doing housewifey mom stuff.

@Andy — it’s a complex question,.but at bottom I think we can blame it on a culture that sets us up to be consumers, not citizens,

I don’t think I had an actual bike until I was 6. Don’t quite remember why. But I think it was probably just a matter of what my sister and I were ready for and what my parents could buy us.

My son started riding a bike without training wheels three weeks before his 4th birthday. He is probably not that unique.

SKL, the “can’t” thing – you should read John Taylor Gatto’s “Underground History of American Education”. It has nothing to do with the kid’s feelings, and most everything to do with having a good compliant work force that is ready to step into the factory or burger shop without complaint, because we can’t have them expecting too much because then they will cause problems on the job.

At least, according to him. But what I have read so far rings true with what I have seen in some school districts.

Stacey, some of the “AP” rhetoric is even more offensive to me as an adoptive mom. I didn’t take custody of my kids until they were 12mos/9mos. Before that I had zero control over their care; I’d spent 3 days with them; and horror of horrors, they were formula-fed. They should both be fat, diabetic, blithering idiots (given that they are alive at all). But, they are not. I’m quite proud of my kids and the efforts I’ve been blessed to be able to make toward their upbringing.

Like I said, I am on board with “breast is [usually] best,” giving your child all the comfort she needs, etc. If I could have, I would have done some of those “AP” things; I have nothing against them per se. But AP parents need to understand the difference between a “nice-to-have” and a “need.” And also, they need to allow for a little variation among babies. Some babies do better with swaddling. Some end up sleeping a lot more and being a lot happier over time with CIO. If some parents didn’t feel the need to resort to these options, then they should feel blessed. Not superior.

I agree with the “What’s the rush?” people who posted on here. Back in the olden days, kids DID tend to ride tricycles up until the age of 6. I know I did (early 70s) and got my first bicycle as a hand-me-down from my cousin at age 6. WAY too big for me, ha ha, but I learned how to ride it by 7. Nevertheless, a next-door neighbor boy DID have his own tiny-sized bike and he was riding it around at age 4 and I remember feeling pretty jealous. But one thing that bugs me about tricycles THESE days is that kids are even forced to wear helmets on THEM! Come on. For one thing, you’re squestered in your safe little backyard while you’re riding them…nowhere near traffic. Whoever heard of a kid falling off his tricycle and getting a concussion? I’ve heard of more head injuries from kids falling off couches!

My daughter was riding her balance bike (pedal-less bike) as soon as she could stand over the seat and reach the ground (maybe 16 months?) and she was on a two-wheeler (with pedals) before she was 3 1/2. She was riding alongside her 6 YO brother to and from his school, on quiet neighbourhood roads (gasp!) with no sidewalks (gasp again!) – with me trotting behind them to keep up. She would go down (smallish) hills and stand up on her pedals. Yes, she wore a helmet (and still does) (and it’s the law here) but no other protective gear. She never even OWNED a trike!

Stacey and SKL, you will find parents who get too rigid on anything they believe in. I’ve seen many go overboard on this site when it comes to free ranging. I myself am rigid about a few of my beliefs as well. I think we all tend to get that way. Many people probably condider free range parenting to be something that is nice but not necessary, as well, since they have raised children under closer supervision that have turned out wonderfully, as well. I know many of these kids who are now very capable adults. And yet many scoff and say, “Well, can you imagine what these ‘helicopter’ parents’ children are going to turn out like. My bet is they will mostly be just fine. Just like I am very much against CIO in any form, and yet many people do it and their kids turn out just fine. I may not personally agree but it’s not my child and I have to trust that as a loving parent, they may have decided that this is what they can personally handle and feels is best in their situation. Sometimes we get so caught up in a good thing we forget there are variances and that we should not be judgmental of others who have to do things a bit different or believe differently and that no one is perfect. If you both look at AP you’ll find the basis’ that AP’s tends to believe in are just that. Basis. Nothing more. If you read AP books, they will say these things are wonderful but if they don’t work for you then there are other ways to attach and you shouldn’t give up on having a stong bond with your child. In fact most books/articles I have read tell you that if you have to formula feed you should try to hold your baby while doing so because it’s that close contact that helps with bonding – versus propping a bottle for them. None have these articles have EVER said that it’s the end of the world if you don’t breastfeed and that your child will be a sickly, diabetic, fat, idiot if you don’t breastfeed, SKL. If you read the studies carefully they say that OVERALL, breastfed kids tend to be healthier with fewer doctor visits and medications, less chance of being overweight in the future as adults, developing diabetes as adults, and they tend to have a bit higher IQ. But it’s not a HUGE difference and certainly it isn’t EVERY formula fed child who will have these increased risks. In some instances we can’t even properly judge. For example, my children were all breastfed. But I have no clue what their IQ’s would be if they were formula fed. Likewise, you do not know what your children’s IQ would be if they had been breastfed. I also know for a fact Dr. Sears, (who is a huge proponent for AP), DEFINITELY has said over and over that you do not have to do all these things to AP and there are different circumstances for different people. These are simply the natural things most parents who naturally are AP tend to do. I’m sorry you have both come across such rigid people who tell you certain practices are the ONLY way to raise a baby. 🙁 No one who really understands and practices AP is that rigid because that would make them the opposite of the whole purpose of AP, which is to raise loving, understanding, sensitive people who will care for and help others.

get this, his elementary school only allows kids above 3rd grade to ride to school. I don’t understand the purpose of that policy. :S

They don’t have enough bike racks, nor enough room for bike racks?

My boys were both riding BMX bikes at age 4, they were in the Sprokets section (very cute) – helmuts are mandatory here yet I see too many kids riding around with them.

Abogado,
I suppose that comment is just spam?

I’ve always been the clumsy sort, so my training wheels weren’t removed from my bike until I was maybe 5 1/2, but guess who taught me to balance? My younger brother!

When he was 2 years old, he got a little Schwinn bike with training wheels, and insisted upon having them removed less than a month later.

This was 25 years ago, so perhaps we just measured time differently back then (before the advent of the modern safety calendar).

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